What I mean to say is women are attracted to a man who never askes or acts like he needs emotional support. But a good wife should be a cheerleader and give that support without being asked. Your mentioning the man fearing being discarded, is a true situation of the legal reality of marriage in the west. But What I intend to describe is the emotional attraction dynamics of females and how men should try to behave if they want to be seen as sexually attractive to women.