You are right that it's all about balance. If need be, seek a therapist. However, according to the image that started this thread, they knew each other for quite a while and the women edged the man to open up. As such it might not be a wife, yet not a random woman either. Asking someone to open up and then discard them is cold hearted and cruel. Such a woman would probably make for a manipulative wife and eventually cold hearted and cruel mother.