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Had a really nice female friend. Also vegan so that made her even more attractive to me. Went on a couple dates. They were fantastic. Now I’m being ghosted (meaning she isn’t responding to me). I switch off from being mad to being sad.

It’s really getting to me. Ik this is corny, but I really thought this girl was better than that. What makes me feel worse is that this has happened to me so many times before. Every single rejection weakens my faith in finding someone I could eventually call a wife.

I’m almost at the point where I don’t want to ever try again. I just can’t take it anymore.

I don’t know how to deal with my emotions and I don’t know if I should confront her.

I’m sorry

Had a really nice female friend. Also vegan so that made her even more attractive to me. Went on a couple dates. They were fantastic. Now I’m being ghosted (meaning she isn’t responding to me). I switch off from being mad to being sad. It’s really getting to me. Ik this is corny, but I really thought this girl was better than that. What makes me feel worse is that this has happened to me so many times before. Every single rejection weakens my faith in finding someone I could eventually call a wife. I’m almost at the point where I don’t want to ever try again. I just can’t take it anymore. I don’t know how to deal with my emotions and I don’t know if I should confront her. I’m sorry

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  1. Don't confront her. If she is already ghosting SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. Trying to reach out to her after you already have several times just comes off as stalkerish and pathetic, let it go

  2. Don't date vegans. They are unhinged crazy chicks.

  3. Remember no one owes you anything. You have to earn respect and time. Also, it's ok if someone says no to you without explination. It's not nice, but it's ok. Move on. There are lots of other people out there

  4. It's a numbers game. Let me repeat that, it's a numbers game. The more you meet people the better chance you have of finding someone. To clarify I'm not saying sleep around, I'm saying agree to go on more first dates with more people and don't put so much pressure on them.

  5. Be fun. Don't make it serious. Just enjoy spending time with each other.

For the record, I was dating someone else when my husband asked me out. I dated him and the other guy at the same time. The other guy would only call to hang out about once every two weeks, so I didn't take our relationship seriously. My soon to be husband started coming around a lot more and on a regular basis. So I gave him more time. He didn't play games. At six weeks dating we eloped. The other guy, right on cue a week later sent me a message asking to go out on another date. I had to tell him he waited so long between dates that I got married. Five years and 2.5 kids later and we are still going strong. But I felt like I could enjoy my time dating because I wasn't putting the "is he the one?" pressure on myself. I was just enjoying the company. We were not young kids either. I was 33 and he was 39. The other guy was 38. So no, all the drama of dating doesn't go away with age. It just gets worse!