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Had a really nice female friend. Also vegan so that made her even more attractive to me. Went on a couple dates. They were fantastic. Now I’m being ghosted (meaning she isn’t responding to me). I switch off from being mad to being sad.

It’s really getting to me. Ik this is corny, but I really thought this girl was better than that. What makes me feel worse is that this has happened to me so many times before. Every single rejection weakens my faith in finding someone I could eventually call a wife.

I’m almost at the point where I don’t want to ever try again. I just can’t take it anymore.

I don’t know how to deal with my emotions and I don’t know if I should confront her.

I’m sorry

Had a really nice female friend. Also vegan so that made her even more attractive to me. Went on a couple dates. They were fantastic. Now I’m being ghosted (meaning she isn’t responding to me). I switch off from being mad to being sad. It’s really getting to me. Ik this is corny, but I really thought this girl was better than that. What makes me feel worse is that this has happened to me so many times before. Every single rejection weakens my faith in finding someone I could eventually call a wife. I’m almost at the point where I don’t want to ever try again. I just can’t take it anymore. I don’t know how to deal with my emotions and I don’t know if I should confront her. I’m sorry

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At your age you're fighting an uphill battle. Our culture seems to infantalize young people and make them afraid of taking on responsibility, which in turn makes many approach relationships with a 'crazy' attitude -- one that they would never adopt in other social settings or at work/school -- basically in an attempt to fend off serious pair bonding.

That is not to say its worth trying to find a wife at a young age. If your goal is to raise a family, it is much, much better to get started young.

Are you religious? Going through church might be a good bet. Hell, even if you're not... It's about community and values. Maybe going there to learn and grow even if you're not 100% on board is admirable in its own way. This is coming from an outright heathen.

Idk about dating apps. When I was on them I was trying to score some easy strange, but found mostly girls looking for serious dating... might have just been the age range I identified (24+).

edit: Btw, hope you feel better soon. Sometimes there's just no way around feeling bad for a while and it's good to just let that take its course knowing eventually it'll just get better again.