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She doesn’t know that I know. I just found out. Separate bank account with almost 5k in it being added to weekly.

I pay for all the bills and have for years and years. Always being told she spends her money “on the kids”

Not really sure where to go with this new knowledge but had to get it off my chest somewhere. We have 5 kids. Feeling a little bit betrayed.

She doesn’t know that I know. I just found out. Separate bank account with almost 5k in it being added to weekly. I pay for all the bills and have for years and years. Always being told she spends her money “on the kids” Not really sure where to go with this new knowledge but had to get it off my chest somewhere. We have 5 kids. Feeling a little bit betrayed.

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Well it was at the Reno chapel so it was “by the power of the state of Nevada blah blah”

No one was there except the paid witness guy.

I would ASSUME for her God too but right now, I’m not sure I should be assuming anything about her.

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

Generally we can consider a state witness worthless, because they do not care about your marriage.

Friends and family witnesses are there to say, yes, you got married and we will ensure you stay married by our standards.

God as a witness is: You have installed my means of marriage and I will judge you as such.

I asked this because if your wife is not close to God, she has what as a safety net on how to judge what is suitable in a marriage? The state? What she will define as moral is either herself or God and when people deal with their own morals... well, you know how it goes.

My knee jerk advice without taking into consideration your actual details is just to confront her. I found X account in Y location, where has this come from? If you choose no communication the issue will just fester.