Unless the source and/or use of the money is suspect, I wouldn't worry too much about it, unless you had a prior agreement to share finances/financial knowledge.
Did she break a specific prior agreement you had by having this bank account?
Regardless, I would let her know that you found out, and ask her why she had this account.
Nothing out of the ordinary except a rather substantial amount and she has been telling me for years she doesn’t have money for this or that. I briefly glanced through the last couple months spending and don’t see anything strange. Just stingy is what I’m hoping.
I cannot and will not presume to know what your marriage is like.
But women, specifically most mother's, love their children more than anything else.
If you love something, you have to plan to take care of it no matter what, even if things don't go according to plan.
It's why people buy insurance on houses, cars, and even spouses.
Nobody plans on having their house burn down, but is does happen.
Things are probably fine with you and your marriage, but what if you left her or got arrested for treason and all your assets were seized? She'd need something to take care of the kids with.
She'd be a worse mother if she didn't have an emergency nest egg nobody knew about.
In other words, your five children are cucking you, causing your wife to choose them over you.
So you have to sit down and have an honest conversation with your wife. Tell her it's you or the kids. She has to choose, she can't have both.
If she chooses the kids, great, she has 5,000$ in a secret bank account to take care of them for the rest of their lives.
If she chooses you, I'm pretty certain you can anonymously drop off children at hospitals and fire stations, no questions asked.
Good luck, I wish you the best.
-Theo
This is the dumbest piece of advice I have ever heard. OP don't so this.
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