So today I had dinner with an African American family. It was interesting

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Here is the story.

I walked out my front door to smoke a cigarette and saw my neighbor to the left struggling to change a headlight on an 09 impala. I happened to know how to change this cars head light. So I just changed it for them. They really appreciated it clearly. My neighbor then told me about some problems he was having with his car and he thought it was a transmission problem, he asked if I would test drive it for him so I did and long story short we ended up at the autoparts store and I scanned his car for him. Found a few broken sensors. So he ask if he could buy me a beer. I accepted.

I allowed me kids to go out to the playground with the neighborhood kids for probably the first time un supervised. At least in a way where I wasn't 10 feet away I was 40 feet away. All the 12 girls all black except my 2 girls played together well and their was only 1 fight about a marker. Resolved easily.

They invited me and my family for dinner. I bought a 12 pack of shitty beer I would not ever buy for myself but I figured what the hell. Lets learn a thing or two about another culture.

I learned some things. One they can cook some good chicken. Really good. 2 I learned they have a family structure that is way beyond what white culture has. Friends are family in a way I have never seen before.

Don't get me wrong I've seen the bad of black culture I've seen some one shot I've seen tribal fights where they all cheer it on.

Does anyone else have any comments on this?

Does anyone else have any experiences with the black community to share?

So I'm pretty sure many of you don't know this but I live in a primarily African American neighborhood(one of the reasons I am trying to buy a house in a better area. The biggest thing I found with this family after making sure the situation was safe. Was they have a group loyalty to friends and family that is rarely found in other communities I have seen. I saw a hard working father that cared about his kids, and his two friends that were essentially dead beat dads. Here is the story. I walked out my front door to smoke a cigarette and saw my neighbor to the left struggling to change a headlight on an 09 impala. I happened to know how to change this cars head light. So I just changed it for them. They really appreciated it clearly. My neighbor then told me about some problems he was having with his car and he thought it was a transmission problem, he asked if I would test drive it for him so I did and long story short we ended up at the autoparts store and I scanned his car for him. Found a few broken sensors. So he ask if he could buy me a beer. I accepted. I allowed me kids to go out to the playground with the neighborhood kids for probably the first time un supervised. At least in a way where I wasn't 10 feet away I was 40 feet away. All the 12 girls all black except my 2 girls played together well and their was only 1 fight about a marker. Resolved easily. They invited me and my family for dinner. I bought a 12 pack of shitty beer I would not ever buy for myself but I figured what the hell. Lets learn a thing or two about another culture. I learned some things. One they can cook some good chicken. Really good. 2 I learned they have a family structure that is way beyond what white culture has. Friends are family in a way I have never seen before. Don't get me wrong I've seen the bad of black culture I've seen some one shot I've seen tribal fights where they all cheer it on. Does anyone else have any comments on this? Does anyone else have any experiences with the black community to share?

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I grew up in a different time and place. SE PA, there were maybe two black families within twenty miles and only an occasional Puerto Rican passing thru. Otherwise, it was just us white folks, Catholics, Lutherans, whatever, Irish, Polish, German, you name it and every mixture of a hundred of similar backgrounds. Lots of prejudice against blacks. The inner cities were no different than today and that's all ya saw, so that's all you knew.

Then I joined the AF, which led me to a career in aerospace that spanned just short of 40 yrs. Anyway, it was through that career where I moved about and worked side by side with a little bit of everyone American, if ya get my drift and that shaped my opinion on this. You see, it wasn't long before I began to realize, as anyone with half a brain soon does, that people are just people. I worked alongside some great folks. Some were white like me, some were black, some were Asian, some Hispanic. There were also great women I worked with, too, doing jobs that weren't traditionally female. There were also many I wouldn't give the time of day ... worthless shits of every sex, color, creed, and religion.

So that's what led me to the philosophy that's worked well for me over the years. I give everyone a chance. Yes, there are horrible people of every description, but there are also those who you learn to respect, no matter where they come from. We are what we make of ourselves. Some go one way, others a different direction. Where they start isn't important, it's where you find them that is. That's why I don't play that whole divisive race, sex, whatever hate thing. Again, people are people ... there are the good, the bad, and the ugly and they come in every size, color, and shape package.

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[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

Blacks are nothing but niggers over at voat. So it's nice to see a post like this.

I'll admit the saying is true, when around blacks don't relax.

However, I know a few really good guys that are black.

One is a great friend of mine. To the point of his kids calling me uncle. He's been in the army for about 10 years now. So I see him rarely. But he's one of those friends that you see and it's like you were never apart. He cares a great deal for his family and would never harm his friends or family. By no means a nigger.

Another was a guy I worked with as a cook years ago. He was from shitcago but was a smart guy. Didn't talk like a nigger which he got shit for from other blacks. Was one of those guys you could make "racist" jokes with. But he dished it right back.

Another is a great guy that is married to one of my wife's good friends. He's a geek through and through. He's a huge Star Trek fan and a big gamer. Loves his family and would do anything to make sure their safe and happy.

With knowing these guys do exsist, I would still not want to live around blacks. These guys are an exception to the rules. But proof that not all blacks are niggers.

On a side note. Each one of these guys know and grew up with their fathers.

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So this was North Carolina. I finished in late June... Hot and Humid. Every single day as I was doing this I had drivers and load managers coming to me after their routes were finished praising me and thanking me BIGTIME for fixing their AC. Only one of the black drivers thanked me. ONLY 1. I didn't really realize it at first. I just was not tuned into blacks and how they are really. The (dot) Indian guy though called out a conversation though which was quite the experience. One of the black mechanics had been taking credit for my work on the AC systems to the other black drivers. He got thanked once and just went with it. I didn't really care at the time and was just happy to have done a good job but it definitely stung a bit. Anyway he called the black mechanic out for taking credit for my work and was literally shouted out of the room by the other black drivers and load managers.

Then I started to catch heat from the black drivers and load managers for trying to take credit for the other mans work... It was fucking WILD... I just told them to look at the order records (who ordered the parts) and the hourly time records (we tracked our time per job) as that would solve any argument that anyone may have as to who did what work... My branch manager actually had to get involved and asked me all about all this nonsense. I just told him to look at the records and If I was not the AC guy in the shop then he better fire my ass on the spot because I have not been working for the last month. He laughed and said I have no worries.

From that point forward I would only fix AC IF REQUESTED. If a driver asked me to fix AC I would. Otherwise I just let it go. Guess what the fleet looked like by the end of next summer? Every single driver that asked the black mechanic to fix their AC had no AC and every single truck with white crews or black crews that asked me to fix it had working shit. It was fucking mind-blowing. I was happy to fix it but they would rather sweat all year in the North Carolina heat than to have a white man fix their AC. I learned a lot...

Dealing with blacks has always been a mixed bag. I grew up in very white areas until after HS. Spent time all over the country afterwards. I worked as a diesel mechanic in the South for a trucking fleet. Fun good job with some good guys. 3 black guys and a street-shitter dude from Trinidad. None of these guys knew how to really fix AC systems and the fleet's abysmal AC systems showed it. Well I have always been good with my hands so I read up on the systems, ordered a PILE of parts to the point the branch manager questioned my purchases then went to work rebuilding AC systems charging them up and getting them frosty cold. It took about a month to rebuild 52 of them on our trucks. Some just needed a filter change which took 5 minutes some needed major parts replacements. In the end I had every single AC system rebuilt and blowing cold as fuck. So this was North Carolina. I finished in late June... Hot and Humid. Every single day as I was doing this I had drivers and load managers coming to me after their routes were finished praising me and thanking me BIGTIME for fixing their AC. Only one of the black drivers thanked me. ONLY 1. I didn't really realize it at first. I just was not tuned into blacks and how they are really. The (dot) Indian guy though called out a conversation though which was quite the experience. One of the black mechanics had been taking credit for my work on the AC systems to the other black drivers. He got thanked once and just went with it. I didn't really care at the time and was just happy to have done a good job but it definitely stung a bit. Anyway he called the black mechanic out for taking credit for my work and was literally shouted out of the room by the other black drivers and load managers. Then I started to catch heat from the black drivers and load managers for trying to take credit for the other mans work... It was fucking WILD... I just told them to look at the order records (who ordered the parts) and the hourly time records (we tracked our time per job) as that would solve any argument that anyone may have as to who did what work... My branch manager actually had to get involved and asked me all about all this nonsense. I just told him to look at the records and If I was not the AC guy in the shop then he better fire my ass on the spot because I have not been working for the last month. He laughed and said I have no worries. From that point forward I would only fix AC IF REQUESTED. If a driver asked me to fix AC I would. Otherwise I just let it go. Guess what the fleet looked like by the end of next summer? Every single driver that asked the black mechanic to fix their AC had no AC and every single truck with white crews or black crews that asked me to fix it had working shit. It was fucking mind-blowing. I was happy to fix it but they would rather sweat all year in the North Carolina heat than to have a white man fix their AC. I learned a lot...

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I know a very few responsible and respectable black people born in western countries. I just simply don’t trust African google. Why? Because 100% of my interaction with them (work related or in public places) are a disappointment. They always try to scam people. Have no interest in intellectual topics. It’s like if their primary goal is to take revenge of past history.

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Not black but a number of Asian cultures and communities.

The whole white independence thing is not only foreign to most, but would be seen as a HUGE disadvantage in life. Other countries and cultures thrive not on the uniqueness, but on things that bond them together -- one culture the extended family including all elders and cousins. Others strong emphasis on God parents, others who your classmates were (going so far as to have separate reunions for elementary, middle, high school and college!).

These different groups of common whatever, form lifelong bonds that continue as people move into the workforce forming the foundation of government appointments, business deals etc.

The flip side of that is the whole crab mentality that can be extremely powerful. Don't get too much better than the group or they will drag you back down to their level.

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[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

You are on their good side. I've had a black roommate in Alaska and watched him beat the Shit out of his native girlfriend one day and the next day we went to to his experience wife's to set up furniture for her and he was a god fearing Christian man around her. Around black never relax.