Interesting. If both the man and the woman are gainfully employed and have modest wealth accumulated, what exactly do they gain in marriage that benefits the family they'll create that doesn't sacrifice family cohesion?
Ha! My husband and I ran into this. He married me thinking I was financial sound because I had my own apartment in the SF Bay Area (I never implied I was, just got in before rents skyrocketed). I married him thinking he was a clean freak. He was not, he hired a cleaning lady to come over and clean the day before he would invite me over. So we both had misconceptions.
My wife and I were lucky, we met as children and pretty much grew up together. So we knew each other pretty well before we got married. Still a few things we didn't know here and there but for the most part we knew what to expect. Don't get me wrong we still had some troubles along the way and had to figure out that traditional marriage was the way to make things work for us but we figured it out eventually.
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