"I don't know what schools you attended," The same schooling system you did too. Now its worse with all the "pride" months kids are forced to attend and learn about. Your community planned for this btw. "I don't even remember gay people really being mentioned in high school, except classmates saying "that's gay" or "you're gay"." Now said speech will get you suspended and labeled as a bigot forever that will chase them into adulthood too. Tolerance sure paid off right? " never saw any media as child where gay people either were present." That's a lie. Especially from an American where ELLEN gets prime time TV slot for over thirty years. Can you try to be creative when you lie next time? "thought everyone grew up to be attracted to and marry the opposite sex" Until a stranger, most likely a older man told you other wise and wanted to "show you" too? We know, I'm sorry you were taken advantage of, but you don't have to throw your life away in response to his abuse. "The notion that one could become gay just from the mere sight of a gay person is so inane that I don't know where to begin." Yeah too bad I clearly wrote "environment" as in the environment you grow up in, meaning you are constantly exposed to gay people telling you it's normal, when it's not. My argument was clearly not just by sight, that's retarded. I know your really upset by the reality check that you were groomed but lets not lie about what the person telling you got groomed said. OK? Then the real healing will begin. Acknowledgement must come first.