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Conundrum time.

You all pretty much know I lost my husband and I can't/won't move on. However the idea of spending the rest of my life alone is depressing at best. Then there's the dating pool of men I have access to and that leads to more depression. I'm 37. By the time I'm ready for a new guy I'll be in my early 40s. I had kids in my 20s, I was a happy housewife. I did what I was supposed to do and I'm probably going to die alone anyway. When my elders told me life isn't fair they weren't joking. Life is a big joke, on me. I hate my life.

You all pretty much know I lost my husband and I can't/won't move on. However the idea of spending the rest of my life alone is depressing at best. Then there's the dating pool of men I have access to and that leads to more depression. I'm 37. By the time I'm ready for a new guy I'll be in my early 40s. I had kids in my 20s, I was a happy housewife. I did what I was supposed to do and I'm probably going to die alone anyway. When my elders told me life isn't fair they weren't joking. Life is a big joke, on me. I hate my life.

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I will have to disagree on the relocation thing though

There's at least one lady I would drop everything for and just move, other than that I'm not really looking for anyone. Men find it easier to relocate, we have a bunch of skills and can deal with the hassle of making that happen. And to be fair, plenty of Asian/Russian woman do the same to end up in the West

Like meatlady pointed out, sometimes you get stick in the middle of nowhere and there's nobody you like, the way out of that is to look further afield, and 100 miles is much the same as a 1,000 as you'd have to move anyway.

I don't know where she's is now, but if someone was already in Idaho then that's a big plus

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt (edited )

Yeah if I was to start looking for another woman it would be in Russia/Ukraine. I'm a widower and I still miss my wife terribly. I understand at some point I will have to move on and it's probably easier for males than females.

At the same time it would be hard to let go of the place where I went through my grieving process, it would be like leaving a "support group" of sorts, you know? I'm just so settled in my routine with my kids, work, friends, neighbors that it would feel like getting a divorce of sorts..

And it's really not a "middle of nowhere" if you have kids, they find a way to make you fit into the community and challenge you regardless of how smart you think you are, I hardly have time to think of getting a woman just dealing with my kids shenanigans lol.

I understand @meatlady, believe me, but at this point she has nothing else to offer to our race, she should be fine and dandy hooking up with whoever she likes as long as SHE is happy. It may sound callous, but that is reality imo.

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Nothing else to offer our race. That's harsh as hell, might as well tell me to kill myself. I have kids to finish raising and I am not a bad person to live with. At some point I will be capable of making a man happy again. That's not nothing.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Might have been poor choice of words on my part. I'm sure you're an awesome person and doing an amazing job raising wonderful kids for our race. You will surely find a fashy Chad of your dreams and make many yummy sandwiches for him :)