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Conundrum time.

You all pretty much know I lost my husband and I can't/won't move on. However the idea of spending the rest of my life alone is depressing at best. Then there's the dating pool of men I have access to and that leads to more depression. I'm 37. By the time I'm ready for a new guy I'll be in my early 40s. I had kids in my 20s, I was a happy housewife. I did what I was supposed to do and I'm probably going to die alone anyway. When my elders told me life isn't fair they weren't joking. Life is a big joke, on me. I hate my life.

You all pretty much know I lost my husband and I can't/won't move on. However the idea of spending the rest of my life alone is depressing at best. Then there's the dating pool of men I have access to and that leads to more depression. I'm 37. By the time I'm ready for a new guy I'll be in my early 40s. I had kids in my 20s, I was a happy housewife. I did what I was supposed to do and I'm probably going to die alone anyway. When my elders told me life isn't fair they weren't joking. Life is a big joke, on me. I hate my life.

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Turn that frown upside down. Jesus Christ. Seriously. Your attitude sucks. Start by working out, eating better, and getting into healthier patterns. Your neurochemistry / spiritual stuff is broken if you are thinking this way. I'ld say fix your shit first, then worry about dating.

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I eat super healthy. Mostly protein. And I basically work out for a living. I'm on my feet all day lifting heavy things. I'm not feeling sorry for myself or having a bad day. I'm looking realistically at my situation. The most eligible bachelor I know is 43, fat, and has brown teeth from chewing Copenhagen. All the guys here are alcoholics who think the bar is the only thing to do.

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Bar is a good place to waste money. So yeah they aren't selling their budget skills are they.

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Then do research to find a better community, get the rest of your life together, sell the stuff you don't need and your house, and move. I hear nice things about Coeur d'Alene, Idaho.

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It's not that easy. We moved the kids across the country to live here, they have settled into their school, etc. I'm not moving them again.

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You are not alone really.

What I will say is that when you are ready treat dating like a job interview make sure to screen the people for the traits you are looking for. Realistically, the men you would match with are in their 50’s.