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Conundrum time.

You all pretty much know I lost my husband and I can't/won't move on. However the idea of spending the rest of my life alone is depressing at best. Then there's the dating pool of men I have access to and that leads to more depression. I'm 37. By the time I'm ready for a new guy I'll be in my early 40s. I had kids in my 20s, I was a happy housewife. I did what I was supposed to do and I'm probably going to die alone anyway. When my elders told me life isn't fair they weren't joking. Life is a big joke, on me. I hate my life.

You all pretty much know I lost my husband and I can't/won't move on. However the idea of spending the rest of my life alone is depressing at best. Then there's the dating pool of men I have access to and that leads to more depression. I'm 37. By the time I'm ready for a new guy I'll be in my early 40s. I had kids in my 20s, I was a happy housewife. I did what I was supposed to do and I'm probably going to die alone anyway. When my elders told me life isn't fair they weren't joking. Life is a big joke, on me. I hate my life.

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Hey look at it this way, you could be 47 and single. That’s a pretty special feeling too. 37 is not that old. I bet you get 10 messages from randy middle aged fascists as a result of this. If that doesn’t work out, you could get a dog.

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I have 2 dogs, and they had 7 puppies I will sell soon. A randy middle aged fascist wants someone younger and still fertile.

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I feel you! I checked out this dating site and it tried to match me with undesirables or the higher end of my age preference, which means that the good men my age are setting their preferences to be matched with younger women.

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You are overestimating the market value and pickiness of the average middle aged fashy boy. Dont you think there’s a bunch of them sitting on the shelf too?

What sort of dogs? I have a hound.

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Yapping pomeranians. Annoying but cute and profitable.

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If you have older kids then there is no clock. Wait until you are ready. Also yes it sucks.

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how are your kids doing?

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Good overall. My daughter's have decided to try therapy and my son, the oldest is riding dirt bikes a lot.

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mine got aborted when i was in my twenties. Remember, it could always be worse. therapy is good for the girls, and the boy seems to be channeling his loss into hobbies, which is great. Seems like Dad left his mark. I realize that none of this is going to help you feel better, but you did what god intended you to do, and are now never alone thanks to your children. As for a new man; My bestfriends mom go remarried at fifty something. There's always hope for you ladies, especially if you're not fat.

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Hey at least you have kids and thus family. You won't die alone.

Also there is a lot of progress in the field of longevity. Try taking some NMN and resveratrol. Look at the research by Dr. Sinclair.

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Turn that frown upside down. Jesus Christ. Seriously. Your attitude sucks. Start by working out, eating better, and getting into healthier patterns. Your neurochemistry / spiritual stuff is broken if you are thinking this way. I'ld say fix your shit first, then worry about dating.

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I eat super healthy. Mostly protein. And I basically work out for a living. I'm on my feet all day lifting heavy things. I'm not feeling sorry for myself or having a bad day. I'm looking realistically at my situation. The most eligible bachelor I know is 43, fat, and has brown teeth from chewing Copenhagen. All the guys here are alcoholics who think the bar is the only thing to do.

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Bar is a good place to waste money. So yeah they aren't selling their budget skills are they.

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Then do research to find a better community, get the rest of your life together, sell the stuff you don't need and your house, and move. I hear nice things about Coeur d'Alene, Idaho.

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It's not that easy. We moved the kids across the country to live here, they have settled into their school, etc. I'm not moving them again.

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You are not alone really.

What I will say is that when you are ready treat dating like a job interview make sure to screen the people for the traits you are looking for. Realistically, the men you would match with are in their 50’s.