Well she's really lucky to have your support, absolutely necessary. We had to get married, back in the seventies, we were misfits but intelligent (well I was lol but she had the common sense that I didn't). Our kids were all boys, all white, over 30 grandkids from them, just one had a broken marriage, two have masters, all are successful even w/ their wives at home. It's hard but I wouldn't change a thing. All but two were home births, we even did home birth after a caesarian. We read the book 'Silent Knife.' Most of my kids do home births and they're all ultra-conservative. Wife and I deserved none of this and feel extremely blessed. We were pioneer homeschoolers, school superintendent came to see us to get on us then later asked us to do his home remodel lol, wanted someone honest. So so much more, what a life, and no tragedies. Not yet.