If you ever want to trigger a woman, ask her what she could have done to avoid a failed relationship. 5% will have the self-knowledge and honesty to explain that she made an error in vetting, or prioritized something superficial like abs over ethics, or ignored blatant flaws. The other 95% will go into super-hypersonic REEEEEing. Men are usually more honest. They'll tell you that they dated Becki the Wonderslut because she was pretty and they were horny and *that was dumb*. Being honest is important for parenting. If you tell your kids "We had X problem because I did Y, do Z instead"...your kids will grow up reasonably functional because there's a relationship between actions and outcomes. If you arent honest...you'll make them crazy by telling them outcomes are random.