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I've committed myself to honesty, recently. No lying, ever again. That being said, I'll still say "no comment" if there's something I don't want to say.

It feels good. Dad asked me if I've ever vaped. I was uncomfortable, but I said yes. He then later asked if I've smoked weed, and I said yeah a few times. Those were the hardest to be honest about.

Concerning respect, a thought struck me that my siblings don't seem to respect me, which bothered me. I then realized that I wasn't respecting them. So, I tried respecting them, and lo and behold they've returned the favor.

Self-respect is another aspect of this. Some of y'all have seen my posts concerning porn, alcohol, junk food, etc. I have a new take on these: so long as I feel I am respecting my physical and mental health, then go for it. Example: I feel like I do not respect myself when I eat too many cookies. But I can still eat some while still being respectful to my health.

I like Molyneux's definition of love: "love is the involuntary response to virtue." Meaning that so long as a person possesses all the virtues you love, you'll love that person. So, how do people love their babies? They have no virtues, right? Wrong, they possess, in its truest form, purity. They've done nothing wrong. They are completely untainted by the evils and temptations of this world. For this reason, purity, to me, seems to be the most valuable virtue.

No more porn for me.

I've committed myself to honesty, recently. No lying, ever again. That being said, I'll still say "no comment" if there's something I don't want to say. It feels good. Dad asked me if I've ever vaped. I was uncomfortable, but I said yes. He then later asked if I've smoked weed, and I said yeah a few times. Those were the hardest to be honest about. Concerning respect, a thought struck me that my siblings don't seem to respect me, which bothered me. I then realized that I wasn't respecting them. So, I tried respecting them, and lo and behold they've returned the favor. Self-respect is another aspect of this. Some of y'all have seen my posts concerning porn, alcohol, junk food, etc. I have a new take on these: so long as I feel I am respecting my physical and mental health, then go for it. Example: I feel like I do not respect myself when I eat too many cookies. But I can still eat some while still being respectful to my health. I like Molyneux's definition of love: "love is the involuntary response to virtue." Meaning that so long as a person possesses all the virtues you love, you'll love that person. So, how do people love their babies? They have no virtues, right? Wrong, they possess, in its truest form, purity. They've done nothing wrong. They are completely untainted by the evils and temptations of this world. For this reason, purity, to me, seems to be the most valuable virtue. No more porn for me.

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[–] • 4 pts

Keep doing what you're doing. You're going good.

I'll offer some good advice I've only recently come to appreciate myself. Most people are incredibly self-critical, and they say shit to themselves that they would never say to anybody else. It's a surprisingly bad habit.

Make it a point to treat yourself as a friend, and to treat all the parts of yourself, even the parts that most annoy or frustrate you, like beloved brothers. When you start to like yourself, and get in the habit of treating all the parts of yourself with unqualified respect, it produces a genuine sort of self-respect that you can't get any other way.

[–] • 4 pts

Good luck man, that not lying ever thing thats going to be a tough one.

[–] [deleted] • 3 pts

Find like minded people to keep you in check. It is incredibly easy to slip into old habits and ways.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

It is incredibly easy to slip into old habits and ways.

So true. After 2 or 3 years without smoking, I started again because during a vacation trip I grabbed a cig from someone at the hostel I was. It served me to understand that there's no such a thing as an ex-smoker. We're like alcoholics. Not smoking again requires constant vigilance, even when we're not chemical dependants anymore. I guess this go like this with any addict.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

We WILL get what we want if left to our own devices. It sucks if you are wanting things that will hurt you or are bad for you, or just go against your desires.