Diagnosed with early onset dementia 14 years ago. Avoids any visit now for that category. I came in hoping he was just kind of the shitty person he has always been. I can’t really explain how he’s always been a piece of shit and make sense of why I am here for him. It’s dark.
Diagnosed with early onset dementia 14 years ago. Avoids any visit now for that category. I came in hoping he was just kind of the shitty person he has always been. I can’t really explain how he’s always been a piece of shit and make sense of why I am here for him. It’s dark.
A deteriorating mind is full of terrible surprises. Unfortunately they tend to be hateful and paranoid and there's no reaching them. Aside from the rare bits of nostalgic clarity they sometimes have, they stay angry, bitter and deceitful. It's a rough ride. It's not your fault.
Yeah. It’s the lies. He lies about everything like a child. There’s no genuine gratitude. My own fault. He’s always been a spoiled brat who expects the world and talks shit about everyone.
I’ve always been fucked with what would be called “daddy issues.” Running out of time to hear him genuinely tell me he appreciates my efforts.
It’s never going to happen.
I’ve always been fucked with what would be called “daddy issues.” Running out of time to hear him genuinely tell me he appreciates my efforts.
It’s never going to happen.
Dementia plus boomer attitude...yeah you're never going to get what you want. If he didn't appreciate you when he was of more sound mind, there's little hope you'll get it now. Tough situation, but don't blame yourself here. Just work towards not being like him. It sounds like you're already better than he ever was. That matters and I'm sure someone appreciates that in you even if it's not him.
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