I just ended up where I was looking for a good woman to love and be loved by, but I didn't find one back then. I was quiet with a lot of social anxiety. I had two brothers I could be cool with, but things were really cold and indifferent. They had the no empathy thing going, and there was no woman I could get that from. My mom was prone to angry and generally just unstable. My mom was sympathetic and emotional and all that, but generally an idiot at relationship dynamics. Like she's incapable of figuring what happens as a result of being angry and unstable. That means people can't trust you with secrets or sensitive information, because all you have to do is get mad and you will use it to hurt them.
Ultimately, God's plan is for women to serve men, but men have the more difficult task. Every time Paul says for women to submit to their husbands, he tells men to love their wives. If a guy needs help understanding this, they can go through 1 Cor 13 and think of how each aspect of love applies to a wife. Love seeks not its own. So a husband should be seeking what is beneficial for the wife. Stuff like that.
My mother cant be trusted with a secret. I would confide in her, and she would tell everyone. I would write in my diary about it, and she would punish me for it. She would build me up and cut me down.
I was raised a devout Christian, even got a badge at a church as a kid for winning a Bible verse competition. I received a Bible from my church when I turned 18, which surprised me, but I already had several bibles available to me at home. I left the church because everyone I loved used the Bible to manipulate me, but one day I realized i knew the Bible and its intended teachings better than anyone in my family, but they still treated me like an insolent child despite my best efforts and their lack of effort.
It took me a long time to understand why a women should submit to their husband if men were allowed to walk all over them.
Ultimately, God's plan is for women to serve men, but men have the more difficult task. Every time Paul says for women to submit to their husbands, he tells men to love their wives. If a guy needs help understanding this, they can go through 1 Cor 13 and think of how each aspect of love applies to a wife. Love seeks not its own. So a husband should be seeking what is beneficial for the wife. Stuff like that.
i agree with that whole heartedly. it took me a long time to come to that conclusion, but better late than never!
I have heard of women with not so nice husbands still ending up where they take the humble and submit position as they pray for a change in the husband. It's not a good situation to be in, but God doesn't say submit to your husband only if he loves you. Of course some situations are so toxic and dangerous the woman should get out. Hopefully the woman can hear from God enough to know what to do in unclear situations.
I recently heard a story of a woman whose boyfriend beat her up. I don't know these people, so I remain skeptical of the situation. Whenever this happens I wonder if the guy is an abusive asshole or if it's the woman who's an annoying, unreasonable, manipulative, bitchy, whiny cunt that really just drives the guy crazy where he just loses it and goes off on her. It's like this guy who once secretly filmed his gf going psycho on him without having much of a reason for doing so. Of course it was something she only did around him. None of their friends would believe him if he told them about how she acted. He had to get it recorded.
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