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Confusing to say the least, seeing as she had already accepted, but now she's having second thoughts about whether we should be together or not. She comes from a very heavy Christian background, like super fundamentalist. How fundamentalist? Like having feelings of attraction to someone is a sin kind of bad. The problem is she loves being intimate with me, but on the other hand she feels horribly guilty and ashamed of being too intimate with me, like she legitimately feels like God will punish her and send her to hell over it (her words).

I can understand the God fearing angle, but this goes straight against the concepts of the NT, which don' t mention any of this. She also believes salvation can be lost, or rather that one can never truly be saved unless they live a blameless and sinless life. Seeing as the Bible literally mentions this is absolutely impossible to do, hence the coming of Jesus, I have absolutely no idea how she plans on accomplishing this feat either. That was the entire point of Jesus being crucified, for the forgiveness of the sins of man.

This wouldn't be a big deal, but she's already been super intimiate with me, and she thinks were simply moving too fast. This is super confusing as well, because she made no mention or even hinted at a notice that this would be or is a problem. Plus if we're engaged, I would think there would be more leeway than casually dating, but apparently not. Now im just horribly confused what's going on

Confusing to say the least, seeing as she had already accepted, but now she's having second thoughts about whether we should be together or not. She comes from a very heavy Christian background, like super fundamentalist. How fundamentalist? Like having feelings of attraction to someone is a sin kind of bad. The problem is she loves being intimate with me, but on the other hand she feels horribly guilty and ashamed of being too intimate with me, like she legitimately feels like God will punish her and send her to hell over it (her words). I can understand the God fearing angle, but this goes straight against the concepts of the NT, which don' t mention any of this. She also believes salvation can be lost, or rather that one can never truly be saved unless they live a blameless and sinless life. Seeing as the Bible literally mentions this is absolutely impossible to do, hence the coming of Jesus, I have absolutely no idea how she plans on accomplishing this feat either. That was the entire point of Jesus being crucified, for the forgiveness of the sins of man. This wouldn't be a big deal, but she's already been super intimiate with me, and she thinks were simply moving too fast. This is super confusing as well, because she made no mention or even hinted at a notice that this would be or is a problem. Plus if we're engaged, I would think there would be more leeway than casually dating, but apparently not. Now im just horribly confused what's going on

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[–] [deleted] 2 pts

Nope, she wants to wait until she's actually married

[–] 3 pts (edited )

That's good. I was confused by "loves being intimate". If she thinks being physically attracted to you is in itself a sin then she needs to read her Bible more. But given the part about living perfectly and sinless etc, you already know that.

Honestly that's what I'd encourage her to do.

I think the problem im reaching into is that she thinks overt kissing and hugging are sins when not married, so it becomes a very rough balancing act to find what is and is not allowed pre marriage. In terms of her outlook, its a great outlook to have