Find someone normal
Find someone normal
Reading that makes me feel like a normal person, and that speaks volumes.
Reading that makes me feel like a normal person, and that speaks volumes.
ha no way you be a normie that moniker....
ha no way you be a normie that moniker....
Did you propose to this girl before having a very serious talk about wanting to get married? Did she know you were going to propose?
Supposing you didn't just spring this on her, I suggest you give her some space. No sexual stuff. Give her a couple weeks to pick a wedding date or at least a time frame, if she won't, get your ring back and find another girl.
Did you propose to this girl before having a very serious talk about wanting to get married? Did she know you were going to propose?
Supposing you didn't just spring this on her, I suggest you give her some space. No sexual stuff. Give her a couple weeks to pick a wedding date or at least a time frame, if she won't, get your ring back and find another girl.
Great advice. Listen to this OP. Your courting time is precious.
Her bio clock is ticking much quicker than yours. It's ok to just relax and go about building a life for yourself to grow spiritually and mature as a man. Women are usually happier with a husband similar in personality to her father. Have you thought about how you fit with her family? Do they welcome you into their home?
Great advice. Listen to this OP. Your courting time is precious.
Her bio clock is ticking much quicker than yours. It's ok to just relax and go about building a life for yourself to grow spiritually and mature as a man. Women are usually happier with a husband similar in personality to her father. Have you thought about how you fit with her family? Do they welcome you into their home?
Her parents love me, they get along great with me. The problem is she thinks things are moving too fast and she's having sort of a mental breakdown over how well things are going. I think this is because im her only real serious relationship, so she's not really sure how to process everything
Her parents love me, they get along great with me. The problem is she thinks things are moving too fast and she's having sort of a mental breakdown over how well things are going. I think this is because im her only real serious relationship, so she's not really sure how to process everything
When you find the right woman the fit will be perfect with no worries, hesitations and drama such as you described. She may end up being frigid just due to her strict religious beliefs. These aren't "ideas". She committed to them. My Catholic raised Mother was the same as this young lady. No sex unless you are making a baby. It's for nothing else and she readily admitted she hated sex.
You might want to take time away from the relationship to pray and meditate on this OP. Marrying someone that has ingrained guilt around sex may be not for you. She will teach her children esp girls the same. She won't be able to help herself.
A time apart to consider IMO is prudent. Take a month or more. Marriage is for a lifetime.
When you find the right woman the fit will be perfect with no worries, hesitations and drama such as you described. She may end up being frigid just due to her strict religious beliefs. These aren't "ideas". She committed to them. My Catholic raised Mother was the same as this young lady. No sex unless you are making a baby. It's for nothing else and she readily admitted she hated sex.
You might want to take time away from the relationship to pray and meditate on this OP. Marrying someone that has ingrained guilt around sex may be not for you. She will teach her children esp girls the same. She won't be able to help herself.
A time apart to consider IMO is prudent. Take a month or more. Marriage is for a lifetime.
That's what im thinking of doing, im gonna take a small vacation trip to my friend's place and settle down for a week or so. This isn't the first time it happened, and she mentioned it coincides heavily with her period (she's super emotional on her period), so im giving her the benefit of female emotions at play
That's what im thinking of doing, im gonna take a small vacation trip to my friend's place and settle down for a week or so. This isn't the first time it happened, and she mentioned it coincides heavily with her period (she's super emotional on her period), so im giving her the benefit of female emotions at play
Put spyware on her phone and computer, trust me
Put spyware on her phone and computer, trust me
Have you been fucking?
Have you been fucking?
Nope, she wants to wait until she's actually married
Nope, she wants to wait until she's actually married
That's good. I was confused by "loves being intimate". If she thinks being physically attracted to you is in itself a sin then she needs to read her Bible more. But given the part about living perfectly and sinless etc, you already know that.
Honestly that's what I'd encourage her to do.
That's good. I was confused by "loves being intimate". If she thinks being physically attracted to you is in itself a sin then she needs to read her Bible more. But given the part about living perfectly and sinless etc, you already know that.
Honestly that's what I'd encourage her to do.
I think the problem im reaching into is that she thinks overt kissing and hugging are sins when not married, so it becomes a very rough balancing act to find what is and is not allowed pre marriage. In terms of her outlook, its a great outlook to have
I think the problem im reaching into is that she thinks overt kissing and hugging are sins when not married, so it becomes a very rough balancing act to find what is and is not allowed pre marriage. In terms of her outlook, its a great outlook to have
she's blown me and says I love you I can't see how this will blow up in my face
Ah, me until March 22, 2015
>she's blown me and says I love you I can't see how this will blow up in my face
Ah, me until March 22, 2015
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