Just say NO. Short and sweet. Busy tomorrow. TY anyway. See you next time I'm in church.
Just say NO. Short and sweet. Busy tomorrow. TY anyway. See you next time I'm in church.
They are very nice people, but something about them screams desperation, maybe even loneliness for some reason. I was telling them I am planning to move to another state. I didn't see this as being that surprising, since I had come into my new church by stating just that, that I would be there temporarily.
But now, this one couple in the church is being super clingy and needy. I had set off last week to go visit my home state, and they all of a sudden needed my help on the exact same day and hour I was going to leave. Their antics delayed me by a total of 3 hours, and I had to end up chopping the trip into two days to make up the lost time. The item in question they needed help on was a whomping 20 pound drawer set, I could literally lift the thing with one hand, it was THAT light. It was somewhat wieldy and annoying to hold, but I mean, it came apart too. You could have just unscrewed into two pieces and reassemble. And apparently no one else could do it, but it was really super duper important. In the grand scheme of things, didn't matter too much since I was on time in my home state, I was more annoyed I had notified them a whole 7 days in advance and they STILL managed to ignore my time schedule.
My second problem is they are taking surrogate parenting to a whole new level. On one hand, yes, my relationship with my parents is not ideal, but if there is ONE thing that will surely piss me off, is people pretending to be my parents out of some weird, contrived obligation to do so. They want to take me to a doctor in a few days, and I appreciate the gesture, but i dont need someone chauffeuring me. I am more than capable of driving to my own destinations, without the help of others. This one I dont even understand, since he is not in a financially capable position to even do this in the first place. We're not talking a 30 minute delay, if you account for me driving to their house + going to doctor + visit + going back, we're already at 4+ hours wasted on what should be a 1.5 hour appointment. Again not a big deal, since i dont work tomorrow, but sometimes I have better stuff to do than waste half a day or more because someone feels like being nice. This sucks too when you realize this person is poor, and has completely messed up priorities
They are very nice people, but something about them screams desperation, maybe even loneliness for some reason. I was telling them I am planning to move to another state. I didn't see this as being that surprising, since I had come into my new church by stating just that, that I would be there temporarily.
But now, this one couple in the church is being super clingy and needy. I had set off last week to go visit my home state, and they all of a sudden needed my help on the exact same day and hour I was going to leave. Their antics delayed me by a total of 3 hours, and I had to end up chopping the trip into two days to make up the lost time. The item in question they needed help on was a whomping 20 pound drawer set, I could literally lift the thing with one hand, it was THAT light. It was somewhat wieldy and annoying to hold, but I mean, it came apart too. You could have just unscrewed into two pieces and reassemble. And apparently no one else could do it, but it was really super duper important. In the grand scheme of things, didn't matter too much since I was on time in my home state, I was more annoyed I had notified them a whole 7 days in advance and they STILL managed to ignore my time schedule.
My second problem is they are taking surrogate parenting to a whole new level. On one hand, yes, my relationship with my parents is not ideal, but if there is ONE thing that will surely piss me off, is people pretending to be my parents out of some weird, contrived obligation to do so. They want to take me to a doctor in a few days, and I appreciate the gesture, but i dont need someone chauffeuring me. I am more than capable of driving to my own destinations, without the help of others. This one I dont even understand, since he is not in a financially capable position to even do this in the first place. We're not talking a 30 minute delay, if you account for me driving to their house + going to doctor + visit + going back, we're already at 4+ hours wasted on what should be a 1.5 hour appointment. Again not a big deal, since i dont work tomorrow, but sometimes I have better stuff to do than waste half a day or more because someone feels like being nice. This sucks too when you realize this person is poor, and has completely messed up priorities
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