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My theory is he hates being alone, and desperately needs to have people around him. Which is fine, some people are extroverted, but to me its exhausting to deal with. I am an introvert, and can only take so much human interaction before my brain fries. In this case, this guy is creating a hanging out schedule that is becoming excessive to say the least. For example, yesterday i met up with him at 5, and didnt get home until past 10. I was gonna cut it short, but then he decided to put on a really long movie at 8 PM. I don't mind movies, but i absolutely despise 2.5 hour long movies. And at this point, it's starting to get a tad bit ridiculous.

My second problem is the idea that only he has ever suffered hardship. Sure, you live a relatively hard life right now, and yes, i am trying to help you. However, I have also had to deal with hardship in my life. I just don't gloat or brag about it. He acts as if he's the only guy who'se ever had debt, or had to make a difficult decision.

Overall he's a great guy, fun to talk to and stuff, but I cant quite understand the sheer dependence on others. The guy is definitely in his late 70s or so, not exactly sure what the exact number is though

edit: a good example, i told him i was busy today and cant help him. My statement didnt even register to him as a problem or a possible issue. He just expects me to drop everything and go help him, regardless of what else is going on in my life

My theory is he hates being alone, and desperately needs to have people around him. Which is fine, some people are extroverted, but to me its exhausting to deal with. I am an introvert, and can only take so much human interaction before my brain fries. In this case, this guy is creating a hanging out schedule that is becoming excessive to say the least. For example, yesterday i met up with him at 5, and didnt get home until past 10. I was gonna cut it short, but then he decided to put on a really long movie at 8 PM. I don't mind movies, but i absolutely despise 2.5 hour long movies. And at this point, it's starting to get a tad bit ridiculous. My second problem is the idea that only he has ever suffered hardship. Sure, you live a relatively hard life right now, and yes, i am trying to help you. However, I have also had to deal with hardship in my life. I just don't gloat or brag about it. He acts as if he's the only guy who'se ever had debt, or had to make a difficult decision. Overall he's a great guy, fun to talk to and stuff, but I cant quite understand the sheer dependence on others. The guy is definitely in his late 70s or so, not exactly sure what the exact number is though edit: a good example, i told him i was busy today and cant help him. My statement didnt even register to him as a problem or a possible issue. He just expects me to drop everything and go help him, regardless of what else is going on in my life

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[–] • 2 pts

I have a pickup truck. A co worker asked if I would help him move something. This was on friday night. I said sure. He said " I'll be ready at 7 am". I told him " you might be ready then but I'll be there at 10".

[–] • 1 pt

I dont have this problem. Since I dont have friends... :(

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

I'm your friend!

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Ah shucks.... No Seriously, I had a best friend in HS. We where inseparable. Every day for years. Then we both go into Meth. He turned bad, like fuck over our friends and cut me into the profits. Which I didn't take because it was fucked up. Our friendship deteriorated. I kicked him out and have not seen or heard from him since. That was a good 18 years ago or. Since then God knows people have tried, I just never made a good friend again.

[–] • 1 pt

Instead of having the next meet-up be open, try making a concrete time and something to do so he has something to look forward to... and stick to it.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

My sympathies for ya, had neighbor once like that and oh wow shit was non stop. Get out of work and dude would be right over. Hopefully you find solution

[–] • 0 pt

He's in his 70s? He's just fucking lonely. Don't over think this.

You probably have a job and other things that occupies your day. But this guy does not. That doesn't mean he gets to walk all over you though. In fact in my experience old people tend to be really focused on and good at getting you to do stuff for them. Not all oldsters, but certainly more than you'd expect.

That "hard life" stuff is crap. Being compassionate towards him ends when he starts taking advantage of you.

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If you were his friend this would not bother you, and you would have already had the talk with him. Nothing is stopping you from saying No, or I already have plans, and we can plan something in a couple days.