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I feel like everyone around me only sees me as the person whose wife died and that's it. Every time i bring it up, it almost always devolves into some form of pity or something. On one hand i could stop mentioning it completely, pretend i was never married, and keep people happy. And yet, the more i am still alive, the more i dont care what people think. I just want people to stop associating me, the person, with me, the relationship that once was. And yet, I feel trapped in the vicious circle of assholes posturing and virtue signalling against my pain

I feel like everyone around me only sees me as the person whose wife died and that's it. Every time i bring it up, it almost always devolves into some form of pity or something. On one hand i could stop mentioning it completely, pretend i was never married, and keep people happy. And yet, the more i am still alive, the more i dont care what people think. I just want people to stop associating me, the person, with me, the relationship that once was. And yet, I feel trapped in the vicious circle of assholes posturing and virtue signalling against my pain

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[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

Stop mentioning it to people, haven't you realized yet that people suck?

[–] • 0 pt

I guess, its the only way. Part of me knows im still young and could rebound (early 30s), but part of me loves isolationism and not dating again. The very thought of being with another woman just seems like i would be cheating on my wife. So in a way, i just have live life not giving a single fuck, and ill be set

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

You never, ever, really get over something like this but in time you will learn to live with it. That's all I have, that's all you can really do without hurting yourself....