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Im a widower, lost my wife a few years ago. I thought i was doing well, and then it hit me, i want to live in the past. Ive been recollecting old pictures, and becoming less social than i used to be. I feel like i just want to eternally be miserable and live in the past. And yet i know, what im doing is very destructive. Looking at pictures, and trying to hold on to memories will just make me more miserable, and yet i cant help but do it anyways. I talk as if shes still alive, but i just dont see why i should stop.

Im a widower, lost my wife a few years ago. I thought i was doing well, and then it hit me, i want to live in the past. Ive been recollecting old pictures, and becoming less social than i used to be. I feel like i just want to eternally be miserable and live in the past. And yet i know, what im doing is very destructive. Looking at pictures, and trying to hold on to memories will just make me more miserable, and yet i cant help but do it anyways. I talk as if shes still alive, but i just dont see why i should stop.

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I just want to give you a virtual 🤗. How lovely it is to hear a man so in love. I don't think I know anyone my age who even knows how to love like that even when the person is alive. Unfortunately most of my generation never experienced that and it's beautiful to know that it actually existed.
I'm single and doing everything on my own. When I get lonely and miss what good memories I did have , I notice that taking long walks and trying new things to cook or do helps take my mind off things. It is hard sometimes. I don't really socialize either. But I will say that even reading quotes from the greats are helpful and just thinking about interesting things like what my ancestors were like and what each person did that resulted in my existence is pretty thought provoking and helps pass the time. I know it's odd but think about how you can benefit the next generation if you have children or grandchildren. Leave behind your thumbprint.