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I made this for those of us who have taken on the responsibility of caring for loved ones.

I’m new to caretaking. A few months ago, I uprooted to take care of my father. I could use some tips, tricks, and support. I doubt I’m alone in this. So far, it’s rewarding, demanding, and a bit depressing. There have been many unforeseen challenges already.

My family kind of has this rule where we haven’t put any of us in assisted living. I took on this challenge because I love my dad and he needs me. He deserves as high a quality of life as possible. Maybe my siblings will help more in the future, though I’d never seen a more greedy and selfish bunch when our grandparents were ailing a decade ago. I’m sure some of you can relate.

Anyway, I hope this can be a positive sub here on Poal.

I made this for those of us who have taken on the responsibility of caring for loved ones. I’m new to caretaking. A few months ago, I uprooted to take care of my father. I could use some tips, tricks, and support. I doubt I’m alone in this. So far, it’s rewarding, demanding, and a bit depressing. There have been many unforeseen challenges already. My family kind of has this rule where we haven’t put any of us in assisted living. I took on this challenge because I love my dad and he needs me. He deserves as high a quality of life as possible. Maybe my siblings will help more in the future, though I’d never seen a more greedy and selfish bunch when our grandparents were ailing a decade ago. I’m sure some of you can relate. Anyway, I hope this can be a positive sub here on Poal.

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[–] • 1 pt

Thanks for the reply and I’m sorry for your loss. Dad loves the Roku tv I got him. He watches ice road truckers a lot. Several other shows. He has balance issues and memory issues. Protecting him from himself is the biggest struggle. No wheelchair or walker, but he has these random bad days and I have a hard time getting him to use a cane when he needs to. Most days he just wants to work outside all day. He doesn’t need to be in a recliner all day, but he also doesn’t need to be loading his trailer with tree limbs and using a chainsaw all day either. He also is afraid to call me when he should. He feels bad to “burden” me but that’s why I’m here now and it’s only worse when a little issue turns into a big one because he tries to hide how he’s feeling or doing.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Thank you so much. We all go through it, one way or another. I get that so much. Keeping them safe whilst helping them maintain their sense of independence and dignity is a balancing act that can be exhausting.

Enjoy this time with your Dad; be sure to take care of yourself in the mean time.

[–] • 1 pt

Kind words and I appreciate it very much.