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What's your opinion? At some age I do think that reasonable spanking is acceptable as a punishment but it should not be common and it should not be overly painful.

I feel like this trend of "Gentle parenting" makes weak people and we end up with the bullshit in our society today. Things like "participation awards" and caring more about "self esteem" than effort and merit.

From the post:

>When I’m asked about my opinion on smacking or spanking as it’s known in the US my first thought is of previous generations, such my father-in-law. My wife’s father came from a different era. Brought up in a poor rural area of the US at the end of the First World War, his own father died of Spanish Flu, leaving him as the sole breadwinner for his family at just ten-years-old. He never had a proper education. When he had children of his own, he had a simple approach to discipline. He would say: ‘If you don’t listen, you’ll have to feel.’ Thankfully, my wife listened and was never smacked. But her brothers were smacked occasionally when they didn’t listen. All four children became exemplary college-educated adults.

What's your opinion? At some age I do think that reasonable spanking is acceptable as a punishment but it should not be common and it should not be overly painful. I feel like this trend of "Gentle parenting" makes weak people and we end up with the bullshit in our society today. Things like "participation awards" and caring more about "self esteem" than effort and merit. From the post: >>When I’m asked about my opinion on smacking – or spanking as it’s known in the US – my first thought is of previous generations, such my father-in-law. My wife’s father came from a different era. Brought up in a poor rural area of the US at the end of the First World War, his own father died of Spanish Flu, leaving him as the sole breadwinner for his family at just ten-years-old. He never had a proper education. When he had children of his own, he had a simple approach to discipline. He would say: ‘If you don’t listen, you’ll have to feel.’ Thankfully, my wife listened and was never smacked. But her brothers were smacked occasionally when they didn’t listen. All four children became exemplary college-educated adults.
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Sometimes a little pain can teach a lesson that other methods maybe cant.

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It reminds me of the story on teaching a child not to touch a hot stove.

Mom says "Don't touch the stove, it will burn you". Dad says "Go ahead, but you will only do it once".

I think there was more to the saying than that but its the general idea. Humans like nearly all animals function off of negative reinforcement there are limits and it can be too much/extreme but used properly negative reinforcement is a useful teaching tool.