So what happened is someone who had a shitty upbringing with associated trauma is treated like someone with a medical problem and inappropriately diagnosed and medicated.
I'm glad someone acknowledges how most adult behavioral problems develop out of child abuse/neglect/etc rather than diagnosing it as some type of mental illness. Something that a lot of normies don't seem to grasp is that true mental illness is going to be pretty random. The paranoid skizophrenic shouting at the sky lords on a street corner can't control their behavior and it's difficult to find a proximate cause. Whereas a child of abuse can control their behavior with therapy as you mentioned. At the very least they can manage their behavior on a budget by adopting some basic philosophical principles and adhering to them. That's certainly cheaper (free or close to it), but it does require them to (for the example you mentioned):
1) Acknowledge reality. "Mom" was a horrible parent who never bothered to teach her daughter how to handle conflict, emotional upset, relationships, etc. And since the example never mentioned "Dad", it's a pretty safe assumption that "Mom" also couldn't be bothered to keep a father in the relationship...which is clear proof that "Mom" didn't give enough of a shit about her daughter to pick a decent, stable guy.
2) Hold people to some basic standards. People who are contributing to behavioral issues need yeeted out of your life faster than a dead hooker. "Mom" would probably be the first to go since you rarely see massively dysfunctional behavior from children of loving, competent parents.
3) Hold yourself to some basic standards. Heck, if someone had to write down some basic philosophical principles and refuse to break them for any reason...it'd be a start. Particularly for children of abuse, it's useful since the behavioral algorithms they learned form their parents are useless or actively harmful.
Of course that takes...effort...which is harder than finding a random therapist and hoping for the best. Though it is free.
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