There is a weird duality to human sexuality. It kind of breaks down like this for men: 1) There is the deeply personal, mutual respect, mutual love part of our sexuality. 2) Then there is the pragmatic part of our sexuality where arranged marriages actually work, finding the right woman doesn't matter because you just need them to get you your family. In the west, we are taught to value the first one more over the latter. However, there is something to be said for the latter because if you just tweak the language a bit, as a man you can look at women like cattle. You bring the home, resources and safety and in your stable you have a woman. Or two, or whatever, because the only thing that matters is how many kids you have. It is at this point that it really doesn't matter if she is 20 or 30, just as long as she can be kept safe, happy and helping you gain a large family. If you look at female sexuality, you will notice that their happiness is also divided between the bad boy / simp duality. They are attracted to the strongest genes, but need to raise the kids with a simp because the bad boy is not stable. Or, to put it another way, women will self organize into hareems for strong favourable men with the intellect and resources without asking. This is why women will engage in being the side chick with a married guy, it's built into their dna. I'm just making the point that once you are aware of this duality, with practice, you can slip in and out of the first and second sexual reproduction roles in our species and satisfy yours and hers needs fully.