Good standards.
Good standards.
Good luck to you. If she's the one, you can tell her she's 1 in a thousand.
Good luck to you. If she's the one, you can tell her she's 1 in a thousand.
These days a good 20% of the population feels you're unreasonable if as a heterosexual male you are unwilling to date someone with long hair and a penis. I'm glad I'm not dating anymore. Good luck!
As long as you're willing to apply the same or more stringent standards to yourself, you should never have to accept anything less from a potential spouse.
These days a good 20% of the population feels you're unreasonable if as a heterosexual male you are unwilling to date someone with long hair and a penis. I'm glad I'm not dating anymore. Good luck!
As long as you're willing to apply the same or more stringent standards to yourself, you should never have to accept anything less from a potential spouse.
Makes perfect sense. I was feeling the exact same way before I found my wife.
The odds are maybe 1:1,000 but I was in SoCal so I was looking at more like 1:100,000. I was blessed to have found her and it is truly divine that we ended up together.
Those women are out there. And what I realized while I was dating…is that women are STARVED for a real man. A protector and provider who wants a woman to love and support him as he goes out into the world for his family.
Lead with your masculinity and the right feminine counterpoint will naturally appear. Stay strong, stay focused, don’t settle. You’re doing it right.
Makes perfect sense. I was feeling the exact same way before I found my wife.
The odds are maybe 1:1,000 but I was in SoCal so I was looking at more like 1:100,000. I was blessed to have found her and it is truly divine that we ended up together.
Those women are out there. And what I realized while I was dating…is that women are STARVED for a real man. A protector and provider who wants a woman to love and support him as he goes out into the world for his family.
Lead with your masculinity and the right feminine counterpoint will naturally appear. Stay strong, stay focused, don’t settle. You’re doing it right.
The only thing I would tell you is drop the "you can not talk to more than one woman at a time" thing.. at least until you find one and become exclusive.
There are many reasons for this. One is because you will likely have to go through a number of them, weeding them out, before you find the right one. Well, that takes time. And time is a valuable commodity. If you have a date with Jane on Monday, Susie on Tuesday, Juanita on Wednesday (fuck you guys, I like latinas), Rebecca on Thurs, Christine on Friday... and you keep dating all of them until they drop off the map (either because you decide or they decide), then you'll be going through the "pile" faster. It's like the difference between using a cotton gin and picking cotton with your hands, dude. Which one is more efficient? Easy answer.
When one drops off, she is already replaced.
Dude, I was juggling 10 women at one time last year. I will admit, it was a bit difficult keeping all their names, details, interests, etc. straight. And I did make some mistakes in that regard. But it was worth it.
Another reason is because it keeps your confidence high and keeps you from getting too invested in any single one unless and until you are really impressed by her. The vast majority are going to fall off the map. It's just a matter of time. And if you only have one option at a time, that can subconsciously make you come across as desperate in ways that you don't even know or are aware of. Nip that shit in the bud because women can smell if you're not confident or if you're desperate - even if YOU can't. So don't even allow yourself the option of going there. Keep a line, and keep that line moving.
Online dating is the most efficient way, in my opinion. Often times, you can weed them out without having to to drive anywhere or spend any money. I shut a lot of shit down before we even got to the "let's meet up" part. All because I would ask the right questions beforehand and thus, not waste my time with anyone unworthy of it. Of the women who actually passed that test, they were the best dates I've ever been on in my life. When it finally came down to pick one and go for exclusivity, I had really good choices. Well, you can't be in that position if you only date one at a time. And now, a little over a year later, I am about to propose to a badass, gun loving, based, Trump loving, and SUPER FUCKING HOT woman. All because I did things the way that I did them. Well, and also because I'm fucking badass. Very few dudes can come out of a divorce like I did and rise like a Phoenix from the ashes within the same month. But I fucking did.
Full transparency: I used to have that same standard, and I was convinced to drop it by a female friend. You see, in March of '21 I became divorced. I hadn't dated in 8 years. So I had to get back in it and start all over. Dating multiples until landing solidly with one exclusively was THE WAY TO GO. Trust me, man.
Keep your other standards, just drop that one.
*Note that I'm not saying to two-time a woman in an exclusive relationship. Nor am I saying to sleep with these women. I am saying neither. I am saying that it's ok to date around until you find exclusivity...it's not just "ok", it's more efficient and thus, smarter.
The only thing I would tell you is drop the "you can not talk to more than one woman at a time" thing.. at least until you find one and become exclusive.
There are many reasons for this. One is because you will likely have to go through a number of them, weeding them out, before you find the right one. Well, that takes time. And time is a valuable commodity. If you have a date with Jane on Monday, Susie on Tuesday, Juanita on Wednesday (fuck you guys, I like latinas), Rebecca on Thurs, Christine on Friday... and you keep dating all of them until they drop off the map (either because you decide or they decide), then you'll be going through the "pile" faster. It's like the difference between using a cotton gin and picking cotton with your hands, dude. Which one is more efficient? Easy answer.
When one drops off, she is already replaced.
Dude, I was juggling 10 women at one time last year. I will admit, it was a bit difficult keeping all their names, details, interests, etc. straight. And I did make some mistakes in that regard. But it was worth it.
Another reason is because it keeps your confidence high and keeps you from getting too invested in any single one unless and until you are really impressed by her. The vast majority are going to fall off the map. It's just a matter of time. And if you only have one option at a time, that can subconsciously make you come across as desperate in ways that you don't even know or are aware of. Nip that shit in the bud because women can smell if you're not confident or if you're desperate - even if YOU can't. So don't even allow yourself the option of going there. Keep a line, and keep that line moving.
Online dating is the most efficient way, in my opinion. Often times, you can weed them out without having to to drive anywhere or spend any money. I shut a lot of shit down before we even got to the "let's meet up" part. All because I would ask the right questions beforehand and thus, not waste my time with anyone unworthy of it. Of the women who actually passed that test, they were the best dates I've ever been on in my life. When it finally came down to pick one and go for exclusivity, I had really good choices. Well, you can't be in that position if you only date one at a time. And now, a little over a year later, I am about to propose to a badass, gun loving, based, Trump loving, and SUPER FUCKING HOT woman. All because I did things the way that I did them. Well, and also because I'm fucking badass. Very few dudes can come out of a divorce like I did and rise like a Phoenix from the ashes within the same month. But I fucking did.
Full transparency: I used to have that same standard, and I was convinced to drop it by a female friend. You see, in March of '21 I became divorced. I hadn't dated in 8 years. So I had to get back in it and start all over. Dating multiples until landing solidly with one exclusively was THE WAY TO GO. Trust me, man.
Keep your other standards, just drop that one.
*Note that I'm not saying to two-time a woman in an exclusive relationship. Nor am I saying to sleep with these women. I am saying neither. I am saying that it's ok to date around until you find exclusivity...it's not just "ok", it's more efficient and thus, smarter.
Most people can not afford to go out with sub par women like that. You date girls you are interested in, not literally every girl who gives you the time of day. What a waste of time and money.
Most people can not afford to go out with sub par women like that. You date girls you are interested in, not literally every girl who gives you the time of day. What a waste of time and money.
Who said anything about “dating literally every girl who gives you the time of day”?
You clearly didn’t read the entire comment.
The entire purpose of that system is to avoid spending time on anyone not worth your time.
Hence why I suggest online dating. “Dating” is really the wrong word.. it’s more like online “sourcing.” You weed them out online before every investing any real time or effort on them. The ones who pass that test, then yeah meet up IRL and take it from there.
Who said anything about “dating literally every girl who gives you the time of day”?
You clearly didn’t read the entire comment.
The entire purpose of that system is to avoid spending time on anyone not worth your time.
Hence why I suggest online dating. “Dating” is really the wrong word.. it’s more like online “sourcing.” You weed them out online before every investing any real time or effort on them. The ones who pass that test, then yeah meet up IRL and take it from there.
I am female and agree with you. I wanted to treat dating like a job interview process, platonically get to know men, and hopefully narrow down on a good one to date to maximize chances of finding a suitable mate.
Due to outside pressures I felt like it was immoral to speak with more than one prospect at a time and would end up wasting huge chunks of time trying to respect a single male I was trying to get to know better.
It was a very ineffective way of finding a partner and I wasted y e a r s.
I think people should aim for more than one prospect at a time as long as they aren't trying to fuck them all for the lulz and just try to make sure they're getting the best fit for them.
I am female and agree with you. I wanted to treat dating like a job interview process, platonically get to know men, and hopefully narrow down on a good one to date to maximize chances of finding a suitable mate.
Due to outside pressures I felt like it was immoral to speak with more than one prospect at a time and would end up wasting huge chunks of time trying to respect a single male I was trying to get to know better.
It was a very ineffective way of finding a partner and I wasted y e a r s.
I think people should aim for more than one prospect at a time as long as they aren't trying to fuck them all for the lulz and just try to make sure they're getting the best fit for them.
90 day fiance actor?? Lmao
90 day fiance actor?? Lmao
Not following?
Not following?
It's a clownworld reality show where people have casual sex with multiple strangers usually just for money.
It's a clownworld reality show where people have casual sex with multiple strangers usually just for money.
I can't even imagine trying to date for marriage at this point. Glad I don't have to worry about it.
Disregard bitches, collect wealth. That is my advice.
I can't even imagine trying to date for marriage at this point. Glad I don't have to worry about it.
Disregard bitches, collect wealth. That is my advice.
Holy crap you're so cool and edgy bro, teach me your ways, I wish I could even be 1/10th as cool as you are
Holy crap you're so cool and edgy bro, teach me your ways, I wish I could even be 1/10th as cool as you are
I quit. Not worth it for me anymore. I don’t need the drama. And I’m enjoying not sharing my life and my money. No plans that I don’t want to do. No sacrificing shit for someone else. Nothing a women can do that you can fix with a box of tissues once in a while.
I quit. Not worth it for me anymore. I don’t need the drama. And I’m enjoying not sharing my life and my money. No plans that I don’t want to do. No sacrificing shit for someone else. Nothing a women can do that you can fix with a box of tissues once in a while.
You're a loser. If everyone had your attitude humans wouldn't exist anymore. Keep on doing you though bud. If you're dumb enough to think the whole point of a relationship is ... that, then your IQ is likely below room temperature and we don't want you in the gene pool anyway.
You're a loser. If everyone had your attitude humans wouldn't exist anymore. Keep on doing you though bud. If you're dumb enough to think the whole point of a relationship is ... that, then your IQ is likely below room temperature and we don't want you in the gene pool anyway.
Lol. Just like a women. Pushing your wants and needs onto others, and expecting people to change their lives on your own fears. I’ve had wife. Kids. Did all that. I support my kids when they need. But my personal choice doesn’t involve mixing the rest of my life taking care of another culturally destroyed women through to an inevitable end. You are probably alone, watching Hitler videos on daily. And worrying that white race is going down hill. I hate to tell you. It’s already gone. Pressure others online to continue pretending it’s not is a waste of energy.
Edit: just realize. You do what you must to come to the same conclusion. God speed
Lol. Just like a women. Pushing your wants and needs onto others, and expecting people to change their lives on your own fears. I’ve had wife. Kids. Did all that. I support my kids when they need. But my personal choice doesn’t involve mixing the rest of my life taking care of another culturally destroyed women through to an inevitable end. You are probably alone, watching Hitler videos on daily. And worrying that white race is going down hill. I hate to tell you. It’s already gone. Pressure others online to continue pretending it’s not is a waste of energy.
Edit: just realize. You do what you must to come to the same conclusion. God speed
"You don't agree with me??? Then you're a LOSER!!!" - said every moron leftist everywhere
"You don't agree with me??? Then you're a LOSER!!!" - said every moron leftist everywhere
What does moron leftists using the word loser have to do with you actually being one?
What does moron leftists using the word loser have to do with you actually being one?
Your problem is probably that you aren't attractive.
Your problem is probably that you aren't attractive.
If you think physical attraction is the only way to snap a women. Than I’m guessing that’s virgin talk that you’re trying to say.
If you think physical attraction is the only way to snap a women. Than I’m guessing that’s virgin talk that you’re trying to say.
So go hit up girls in church? If your at a club. There is your problem.
So go hit up girls in church? If your at a club. There is your problem.
I mean I still find them, its just insane to me that the standards are considered so excessive by today's standards that 1 woman in 1000 qualifies
I mean I still find them, its just insane to me that the standards are considered so excessive by today's standards that 1 woman in 1000 qualifies
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