I didn’t realize what a real marriage was supposed to be like until I met my in-laws. About a year after I married their son. It was enough to make me want to move across the country to live near them so that I could learn from them and raise my children the way that they raised theirs. And to learn how to communicate and that divorce is not an option so you just learn to communicate and then you don’t have big blow out fights... you just talk it out calmly without the children present and then move on. No holding grudges, or it doesn’t work.