Use a square of tp to dab the tip. Avoid my mistakes
This is the kind of lifehack I was looking for.
do not shake to the point of engorgement
This is a great rule of thumb. But even before that point some stimulation is unavoidable, no? I'm just worried I might inadvertently delay my wanking addiction recovery by accidentally getting a dopamine boost from this activity.
Once is fine. Twice is okay. Three times and you're just playing with yourself.
Serious question though, does a hardon count as a violation of #nofap or does that require a climax?
Erections are fine. Sex is fine. Even getting an old fashioned hand job from a gal is fine.
What you're trying to avoid via NoFap is self-stimulation and porn usage. This gets made fun of because of the supposed claim that your dick is gonna know the difference between a HJ from someone else and a HJ from you.
The difference is having a sexual experience involving intimacy with another person and a sexual experience involving pornography. The latter requires no work, no waiting, no delay of gratification, no human interaction (!), and because the variety of material is so expansive it tends to draw people into deeper and grosser sexual fantasies over time. This cycle of porn and self-gratification can easily develop into a dependency, which is why for so many people it's a big deal to undertake NoFap and 'relapse' is a big part of the discussion.
NoFap is aimed to be a recovery system from this perverted sexuality, therefore healthy sexuality is encouraged. However, getting pleasure by touching yourself (as in the OP's satirical example) or thinking lewd thoughts (often porn memories or porn-inspired fantasies), should be avoided as it's really more akin to the on-demand, lazy sexual experience of porn.
But yeah, if you're a dude who fucks his wife (or an endless gaggle of Tinder THOTs - no judgement) and doesn't jerk off or look at porn, you're already doing NoFap. (Edit: and erections, such as those you get while you sleep and early in the morning, are good for dick health)
And honestly, jerking off would be fine every now and then. But for those of us who have been looking at porn for years, it's better not to because it gives us to opportunity to recover from the subtle (or not so subtle) influence years of porn has had on our mental health.
I appreciate the thorough response.
That all makes perfect sense to me. It's similar to how some men, but mostly women get addicted to the false social interaction (attention) from social media. There's little to no actual effort involved and a comfortable lie looks as good as the truth to many people.
For some it can get so bad as to impact their actual IRL life by skewing their expectations of reality.
Yes exactly.
>Once is fine. Twice is okay. Three times and you're just playing with yourself.
P.S. Where did you hear this? It stuck in my memory from somewhere and was the inspiration for my post, but I can't remember where it came from. A pop song from the 90s maybe?
I believe it was a Good Charlotte song from the early 2000s. . . I listened to a lot of gay shit in high school.
That tracks as it's something I would've been exposed to.
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