People use it wrong. Like many things in life that become addictions. Hear me out. You get aroused when you see pretty wahmen. Look but don't touch your peter. Find the artistic stuff that is focused more on emotion. Your heart will race you will feel jacked. But don't for one second touch your peter. When you feeling all primed and jacked. Go do something else. Turn that energy it to something hyper focused. Work out, run. Work on that part of your job you are hung up on. Clean the house. Wax the car. Or chase your wife up the stairs, or make a meal for her and swoon her. Or jump into the magick circle. Its called sexual transmutation. Most people get all jacked up just to spill their seed.