And this doesn't even account for what we're realizing today are the huge impacts it has on women as well. It also destroys intimacy for women. I just spent Saturday night with a group of people watching the UFC, and just listening to women casually discuss sex it was clear that they are also viewing men with increasingly pornographic standards. We're all living in a sexual virtual reality and trying our best to make it seem like our actual intimate human relationships are cutting it. More and more of the language I hear today distinguishes relationships from sex, in which one's sex life, despite having some intersections with romantic relationships, are on this kind of parallel track separate from the latter. There is a masturbation and porno life separate from intimacy, and people hold it up high when these things overlap, but there is always the assumption that they are separate and the former is taking supremacy. It's unbelievable to me today how many people talk openly about how they base their choices about who to be with on the basis of sex alone. Granted, sexual pleasure is important. It does factor in, but the hyper-sexualization of people today is unbelievable, and the irony is that it corresponds to what seems like an increase in quantity and totally depleted quality. It's about how much, not what kind. And we vitalize this whole idea by holding up 'fantasy' as having as much reality as the real thing. "Listen honey, I'm just not satisfied when I can't *explore* my fantasies." "Yeah, you aren't going on a sex-cation to get gangbanged." "But don't my *needs* matter?"