As someone who has dealt with porn addiction, it is one of the most difficult things to eliminate, and these are things I wish I knew at a much earlier time in my life.
I have probably talked to a dozen guys that want off the dopamine drip, men in their 20s that admit their sexual experience with a computer is more powerful than the ones they have with their partners.
I consider it to be one of, if not the biggest, problems in our society at the moment - I am inclined to say the greatest one because (even with the increased critical conversation about it today) it is still virtually passed over relative to how serious a problem it is.
I could write a book on the psychological problems porn causes for men and women. The effect on men is getting more attention today, and the effects on women not nearly enough.
Yeah, nevermind me constantly being under the threat of homelessness. The real problem is that I jerk off too much.
You already know there is a difference between identifying a cultural problem where we pick out something undermining individual moral fabric, and talking about a socioeconomic issue.
I wouldn't say they can be totally separated at the level of you as the individual. There isn't a domain of life that I don't believe is impacted by frequent porn consumption. That is, if you have a problem in your life, chronic masturbation to pornography is just piling on - in addition to possibly being an influence at the ground level.
Some of the most insidious detriments to the quality of our lives and our effectiveness in the world are really the amplification of (what seem like trivialities) of our habits. That's the nature of virtue and vice: momentum. The small becomes the large.
I know you won't agree, and your situation is more complex. Trauma complicates the picture, but at no point should we ever take the existence of trauma which is not your fault as the express dismissal of the added insult that comes from continuing to shoot yourself in the foot.
Stop fapping then.
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