'Self Made Man' came out in 2006.
From Kikepedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norah_Vincent#Later_work
Later work
Vincent later wrote two novels: Thy Neighbor (2012), described by The New York Times as "a dark, comic thriller," and Adeline (2015), which imagines the life of Virginia Woolf from when she wrote To the Lighthouse until her suicide in 1941. Personal life, views, and death
Vincent, a lesbian, was briefly married to Kristen Erickson, but they soon divorced.
Vincent was described as a libertarian who was critical of postmodernism and multiculturalism. She did not believe that transgender people were the sex they identified as, leading her to be accused of bigotry. In an article for The Village Voice, she wrote: "[Transsexuality] signifies the death of the self, the soul, that good old-fashioned indubitable 'I' so beloved of Descartes, whose great adage 'I think, therefore I am' has become an ontological joke on the order of 'I tinker, and there I am.'"
Vincent died via assisted death at a clinic in Switzerland on July 6, 2022, aged 53. Her death was not reported until August 2022.
I hesitate to connect her decision to a book she wrote 18 years earlier.
Doesn't say she killed herself because she was treated poorly as a man.
It wrote about it in great detail
(post is archived)