Yes. Something like 95% of Americans have sex before they get married, and the tradcon Christcucks don't want to think too hard about how many Hindu and Muslim girls are doing the heavy lifting in those numbers. And ultimately, the divorce rate is bad, but it's not 95%. Realistically, you're looking for a girl who thinks sex is nothing short of fantastic and awesome, but understands it's for capital-B Boyfriends and Husbands, of which she's had an appropriate number for her age. The idea is that relationships involve a number of skills that you both have been cultivating while dating, sometimes learning lessons at great cost--the one that got away can inspire anybody to grow up a TON--and that you both have become somewhat competent at those skills and moreover CARE about being competent and always getting better and better at those skills--which range everywhere from oral sex to spending habits to communication. The idea is you both have learned some shit about yourselves, the opposite sex, relationships, and family from a few high quality experiences, so you understand what you're getting into when you tie the knot. And yes, I realize that against the backdrop of hookup culture, what I'm describing is only slightly less idealistic than trusting entirely to divine intervention as a courtship strategy.