Sorry dude, you sound like my friend. Your brother sounds like my friend’s older brother. Not a very good guy, but he does try sometimes. He’s just really fundamentally warped. In his own mind he’s either the king of his world, or he’s blackout drunk, destroying the photographer’s gear and trashing his own resort room the night before his kid brother’s wedding. It’s an odd feeling to pity someone and hate them at the same time. Sort of like homeless assholes who walk up to your window at a red light and try to make eye contact. I hope your brother survives the day of his reckoning, and you guys can be bros again like the good old days. Same with my friend and his brother.