I think that is better than if the ex is in the picture - no doubt. I know a woman who has two kids, father was killed in accident. She’s a Christian, very intelligent and loyal, very beautiful, moral and modest, terrific mother, the entire package. It actually hurts me inside that no one has come along to make her a wife and mother all over again. I’m very happily married to a terrific woman otherwise I would pursue her just for her personality. I don’t find her type attractive (thin blonde - I like pretty brunettes with big, athletic asses) but she’s too good to leave on the bench. It’s just such a shame.