I try to notice when she looks like shit more than anything, I dont bring it up, I just try to notice. That way when she does her makeup and hair its easier to tell and I compliment every time i notice. I dont do insults, I dont get mad, if she gets too angry or emotional, ill just ask her some kind of variation of do you want me to get mad too. Do you want me to talk to you like that, whatever. I used to get so mad at my ex wife, id lay out some savage insults, and true assesments, that would feel great. It was all a waste of time and emotion. If you want to make her cry, or have some mean shit you cant wait say, youre wasting your time with her.

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