That was the joke...

That's when a good father would start killing.

You are correct. The government has tremendous power over parents, but you can still effectively arrange marriages for your children. Enough association with childhood friends and support for marriage and family is a huge boon for marriage, and it effectively arranges their lifelong marriages. It's courtship, the most common European arranged marriage system, and Whites have used it for millennia. (((They))) will stop at nothing to get Whites to move for jobs to effectively make this system immensely difficult for fathers.

They are if you go back far enough. Arranged marriage is a spectrum where the arranged part is the "let's all do this peacefully" and the opposite end of that is "let's go kill the other tribe and get all their women".

The romans documented that german tribes had a ritualized yearly war party system where on a yearly basis they would gather up allies in a systematic way and go and kill other tribes.

The part of our mating ritual that puts 'i gotta find my romantic soulmate' on a pedestal is really a modern invention. It has it's place as a component of our mating ritual but it is highly corrosive in the idealized form that it takes in western society.

That isn't to say that our women were chattle or anything of that sort. They were also incredibly powerful throughout ancient history and men were, more often than not, physical manifestations of female power.

What I am saying is that it has always been far more complicated than how relationships are portrayed in western civilization currently. What we think of relationship and marriage in the west is a kind of fairy tale for adults. it's overly simplified and leads to a whole scurge of problems that we don't talk about or deal with.

It is also to say that, if I am honest, arranged marriages have a bunch of positives that most people don't appreciate until you have seen this first hand: an arranged marriage starts the relationship off as a utilitarian union that "can" result in true love through an arbitration of respect and submission to the realities of a relationship between the parties.

I have seen this work successfully in east indian cultures now like a half dozen times. The young couples are all still together at least a dozen years later and all seem happy, adjusted and have kids, large extended families and most of them even have great jobs and homes.

It's simple and complicated at the same time. More needs to be written and explored here.

There were plenty of arranged marriages in Europe, particularly of note in the nobility; however it was relatively prevalent among commoners as well, fathers would often find suitors for their daughters, generally in a marriage of convenience to bring wealth into a family. And even if a union of man and women occurred organically, a marriage would not usually take place without the fathers' blessing.

Yes they are.