I know firsthand the stress children put on a marriage. I recognize being powerless to change someone, but, the powerful inspiration of changing oneself can be very compelling to a partner. My wife and I have spent the majority of our lives together. Of course, I like to think I made a great choice, and I imagine she thinks the same. :) But we haven’t gotten along this far by making one good or lucky choice decades ago. We both have to make lots of choices all of the time in order to continue. Now it’s your turn, I assume you are married with kids? Also perhaps a mother not a father.