I did not Zee that coming

Both? Nice.

You are still in an high risk situation. She has all the power and you none.

What happens when you piss her off by saying no once? While some young guy was flirting with her and giving her fuzzy feels? And her gf who hates you is also dogging you? And she sees her neighbor get house and kids from a recent divorce living it up partying and whoring?

Don't feel secure because you ain't. Tens of millions of men. Do you comprehend that number? Though they had married a unicorn and got brutally destroyed by divorce. Many of those men were better husband's earners and fathers than you.

You're lucky, bro. You're probably of above-average looks and have your shit together; or at least can present yourself as someone who does. Unless you register as a 7/10, on the scale of objective attractiveness: you're doomed on dating sites. At least in-person, you have more of a shot because they can't just swipe you away. But not everyone has that luxury.