Sounds like you both know already that, yes, it is a waste of time.
I see it more as the church trying to suck you in to becoming members by forcing a legalistic down time for marriage. This way when you do leave, or they do something dumb, you're more inclined to accept it and move on, over challenging their actions
Perhaps that is an accurate depiction of that particular church. But even if so, it doesn’t negate the benefits of a good premarital counseling track.
Some people don’t know how to properly cook a steak, but that doesn’t mean that steak in general is bad.
Honestly her family makes a great pre martial counselor group, since they ask all the questions that need answering. I feel like counseling itself is not the problem, church mandated demands for counseling for a condition of their services to me makes it scummy, it feels like coersion at that point
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