I’ve been married once, as has my fiancée. So our upcoming wedding will be the second (and hopefully last) marriage either of us ever have. The short answer I’ll give you is yes, get premarital counseling. Also know that not all counseling is equal. If you’re already living together, then you probably have at least somewhat of an idea what a life together will be like..but even then, marriage changes things and time will bring up issues that you aren’t prepared to deal with unless you’ve already been married before (and learned from it), you’ve had good premarital counseling, or both. If you aren’t living together yet, then sorry to tell you but you have no fucking idea what it’ll actually be like once you’re married. Yeah, you both have an idealized version in your minds, but that’s all it is. You sound like me before the first time I got married. The attitude of “what’s the use” and “she already knows me at a deep level” aren’t going to serve you well in the long run. Even then, I still went to premarital counseling with my first wife..though in hindsight I realize that particular counseling track was rather thin and insufficient as compared to the one I’m currently in with my fiancée. Not that it would have saved my first marriage anyhow because I flat out married the wrong person, and there’s no fixing that after the fact. Listen, you can believe me or not. But I would implore you to trust me on this. I could go into more details on why I’m right, but then I’m not trying to write a book. At the end of the day, if you both are truly in this for the long haul and want your marriage to last, go to counseling, pay attention, and take it seriously. If you end up not going to counseling, at least learn about the 5 love languages and take the test to know what yours and hers are. Again, trust me on this shit man. At the least, you had better know what her love languages are and you better be speaking to her in those languages. If not, your relationship *will* eventually fail. I’d also recommend knowing what your attachment styles are. There’s also a test for this. FWIW, we’re currently taking the SYMBIS track. It’s once per week for 8 weeks. We’re a little more than halfway through it. Because we’ve both been married before, yeah there is some stuff in there that we learned the hard way, and so we already know it..but even so, there’s still new things we didn’t know and it’s always good to get a reminder for the rest. But whatever you do, don’t walk into your marriage with the “don’t worry, we got this” attitude. Because *you fucking don’t*. You just don’t know it yet. And understand I’m not bashing marriage or dooming your marriage in particular. I’m simply telling you that it ain’t what you think it is. There are great things about it and I’m pro marriage. Otherwise I wouldn’t be getting married again. But there are hard things about it, too. And as time goes on, those things *will* become more apparent. Marriage takes *work*. Most people don’t fucking realize this and I think it’s one reason why 50% of them fail. You may think you know her well, and perhaps you do. But you don’t necessarily know females well. Or the married version of her. Of the version of her that you will see every day and that you have to deal with. And likewise on her end, too. Don’t take this shit lightly, dude. Fucking armor up, both of you..because you’re gonna need it.