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My mom was not the best mom in the world. Some could say not being raised by a parent would have been better than being raised by ... her. My dad was always a passive one, the enabler who would strap you down whilst mom beat us. My mom got so bad, my brother drinks every day trying to forget what happened, he just doesn't want to remember. My mom would threaten us with knives, dry fire guns in front of us for "fun", she kept insisting we were gay when we weren't because she hated she couldn't pick up brownie points for the new age globo homo, she kept seeing us as her meal ticket to her retirement, so she would constantly hammer us for not making enough money, not dressing right, insulting her by asking basic questions about her thought process. The question is why should I forgive her? Even if i wanted to, how would i begin to commit to such a feat?

My mom was not the best mom in the world. Some could say not being raised by a parent would have been better than being raised by ... her. My dad was always a passive one, the enabler who would strap you down whilst mom beat us. My mom got so bad, my brother drinks every day trying to forget what happened, he just doesn't want to remember. My mom would threaten us with knives, dry fire guns in front of us for "fun", she kept insisting we were gay when we weren't because she hated she couldn't pick up brownie points for the new age globo homo, she kept seeing us as her meal ticket to her retirement, so she would constantly hammer us for not making enough money, not dressing right, insulting her by asking basic questions about her thought process. The question is why should I forgive her? Even if i wanted to, how would i begin to commit to such a feat?

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[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

Sounds familiar. It sounds too like your mom was/is a very broken person or possibly has some underlying psychosis; I suppose maybe your forgiveness could be based on that. A lot of us, sometimes I think most of us (us in general not just poalers) come from unhealthy families. But we survive.

Consider who you are and what you've become. Base your forgiveness on that. Maybe your mom grew up in her own special hell; a friend of mine grew up with a violent alcoholic father. He hated his father until the day his father died then eventually came to realize and learn about the hell his father grew up with.

It's something you have to find for yourself. You don't have to forgive her but that anger and resentment is such a huge burden to carry.

Talk to your priest or pastor; going to confession may help you gain insight into unraveling your mom's chaos. I mention confession to help you with your idea of forgiveness and how to achieve it.

[–] [deleted] • 3 pts

She grew up in a violent, alcoholic family, was thrown away to her grandparents at a young age, and she left her parents at a very young age

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah, it's hard to forgive having a horrible childhood but, sounds like your mom didn't know what a good childhood is/was- she didn't know how to be a parent because she didn't have a healthy role model herself.