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The way i see it, i would rather die than ask for any kind of handout or charity. even today, i had the option to ask for help when it comes to some house stuff, or do it myself. and i came to the conclusion i could do it myself. i've also come to the conclusion that bitching aobut my problems to others is a futile endeavor. nobody gives a crap, and they have their own problems anyways, so they clearly dont care about your own. so then, what is it about pride that i'm missing? or like all other concepts, did this one also get kiked to hell and beyond?

The way i see it, i would rather die than ask for any kind of handout or charity. even today, i had the option to ask for help when it comes to some house stuff, or do it myself. and i came to the conclusion i could do it myself. i've also come to the conclusion that bitching aobut my problems to others is a futile endeavor. nobody gives a crap, and they have their own problems anyways, so they clearly dont care about your own. so then, what is it about pride that i'm missing? or like all other concepts, did this one also get kiked to hell and beyond?

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I don’t think asking for help to ie move stuff is a bad thing. People like to help.

Asking for hand outs is more of an economic thing. We don’t design the economy, policy does. It doesn’t do anything if you want to act capitalist in a communist economy.

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Every time I asked my mom or dad for help when I was a kid, I was routinely lambasted, and teased for being a fucking faggot. To ask for help is to show weakness, and I will not stand for being a weak faggot.

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Ever heard of the Benjamin Franklin effect? It’s a play on cognitive dissonance where if you “get someone” to do a favor for you they become your friend, because through cognitive dissonance their mind has to register you automatically as a friend because it doesn’t do favors for enemies.

That’s kind of the manipulative way of looking at it but asking for help makes friends.

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I feel like if I have to manipulate people into liking me, Im doing it wrong. I dont much care if people like me, and some pretend to, i know they're probably lying, either to me or themselves. My mom used to always tell me people can only see me as a person in terms of what they can get from me, and I believe her. Didn't have many friends in middle school, high school, but part of me thinks my mom was preparing me for the real world, or rage dumping her own feelings onto me. I have to say, her feelings are not really that far off from reality.