Your father and her father set you two up
Your father and her father set you two up
the law of kekestan
the law of kekestan
The focus in this case was about explaining that not only was outward behavior sinful, but the inner thoughts, as well. It was a knock against the allegedly “pious” who believed themselves sinless.
Lust is also different from appreciation. The notion, here, isn’t simply attraction, which is passive; it is desire. It’s ἐπιθυμῆσαι, with an active voice, meaning there is an intent and decision to engage mentally with the attraction felt. It’s the difference between thinking the neighbor’s steak smells good on the grill as opposed to craving it, imagining what it tastes like and how you might acquire some.
When both are eligible, it is understandable to view a woman appraisingly, but you are expected to exercise caution when you do so, unless it might move beyond appraisal and appreciation into desire. Further, this action should be reserved for single men approaching single women, not married men toward any woman, or any man toward married women. Hence the use of the word ἐμοίχευσεν for the act of “committing adultery.”
The word ἐπιθυμῆσαι is related to words sometimes translated as “covet,” much like the wanting another man’s car for yourself. Additionally, the word can have positive connotations when about the “desire” to do what is right (Matt 13:17 re: prophets and righteous men who wished to see Christ incarnate, but died before his arrival).
The word, while sometimes used in proximity, is also different from πορνείας (Rev. 2:21), specifically meaning “sexual immorality,” or any thought or action of a non-monogamous sexual nature.
The focus in this case was about explaining that not only was outward behavior sinful, but the inner thoughts, as well. It was a knock against the allegedly “pious” who believed themselves sinless.
Lust is also different from appreciation. The notion, here, isn’t simply attraction, which is passive; it is desire. It’s ἐπιθυμῆσαι, with an active voice, meaning there is an intent and decision to engage mentally with the attraction felt. It’s the difference between thinking the neighbor’s steak smells good on the grill as opposed to craving it, imagining what it tastes like and how you might acquire some.
When both are eligible, it is understandable to view a woman appraisingly, but you are expected to exercise caution when you do so, unless it might move beyond appraisal and appreciation into desire. Further, this action should be reserved for single men approaching single women, not married men toward any woman, or any man toward married women. Hence the use of the word ἐμοίχευσεν for the act of “committing adultery.”
The word ἐπιθυμῆσαι is related to words sometimes translated as “covet,” much like the wanting another man’s car for yourself. Additionally, the word can have positive connotations when about the “desire” to do what is right (Matt 13:17 re: prophets and righteous men who wished to see Christ incarnate, but died before his arrival).
The word, while sometimes used in proximity, is also different from πορνείας (Rev. 2:21), specifically meaning “sexual immorality,” or any thought or action of a non-monogamous sexual nature.
No one makes it through life without sinning. But I think the intended message here is to not indulge your baser instincts. It's one thing to seek a wholesome marriage, it's another to ogle women who are off limits and openly express your lust. I don't take this to mean it's wrong to think or say of a woman "I would be lucky to have such a beautiful wife". I take it to mean don't say and try not to even think "Check out the sweet ass on that one! There are so many things I'd like to do to her in bed!", particularly when she's not yours to take.
No one makes it through life without sinning. But I think the intended message here is to not indulge your baser instincts. It's one thing to seek a wholesome marriage, it's another to ogle women who are off limits and openly express your lust. I don't take this to mean it's wrong to think or say of a woman "I would be lucky to have such a beautiful wife". I take it to mean don't say and try not to even think "Check out the sweet ass on that one! There are so many things I'd like to do to her in bed!", particularly when she's not yours to take.
We are waaaaay over sexed. Everything is so sexualized.
If you can date for a time, stay vertical and stay six feet apart AND still enjoy each other's company - you have a shot at a relationship.
There is so much more to relationships than sex and when we start with sex the other stuff gets overlooked until your married and you find out she is a real witch.
Simply put, if you can't control your appetites you aren't mature enough for a relationship. Don't get into one until you can.
The first few months should be spent looking for red flags, not screwing.
We are waaaaay over sexed. Everything is so sexualized.
If you can date for a time, stay vertical and stay six feet apart AND still enjoy each other's company - you have a shot at a relationship.
There is so much more to relationships than sex and when we start with sex the other stuff gets overlooked until your married and you find out she is a real witch.
Simply put, if you can't control your appetites you aren't mature enough for a relationship. Don't get into one until you can.
The first few months should be spent looking for red flags, not screwing.
Yeah just make it to the age of arranged marriage without lusting after anyone then continue to not lust out of anyone the rest of your life.
Yeah just make it to the age of arranged marriage without lusting after anyone then continue to not lust out of anyone the rest of your life.
Arranged marriages based upon family wealth and status.
Arranged marriages based upon family wealth and status.
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