Weirdly (I found out years after) where I used to hang around in my teens, I used to walk past a guy a couple of times a week and I eventually found out(after he had died at 49) that the very person I used to walk by was actually my dad, he didn't know me and I didn't know him, very weird.
That's kinda crazy. Did you have any thoughts about that guy when you saw him on the street and didn't know he was your dad?
No, I just recognised years after when talking with cousins from talking(we all lived in same kind of area and hung out together , we didn't know we were related until it came out) then one cousin and I were talking and I clicked that they were talking about the person I used to walk by and I worked it out from there. I don't have anything to do with uncles, aunts on my dad's side and really only stay in touch with my 1 cousin.
I don't know how old you are but I would say if you're old enough to make your own way, then do that, some people shouldn't be together and it really really fucks children up(I'm certain you're not a child ) if the damage is done, you have to understand that none of it is your fault and people sometimes make each other miserable(sadly).
I would also add that I have been with my wife for 26 years or so now and so it is possible to form relationships that work well.
Good luck.
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