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I mean I have been married and have a kid, ( he is like 30 now) been in three long term relationships (each seven years, weird huh) I have read shit that says using drugs young does this. But god damn in my mind Im still like 20.

I mean I have been married and have a kid, ( he is like 30 now) been in three long term relationships (each seven years, weird huh) I have read shit that says using drugs young does this. But god damn in my mind Im still like 20.

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Nah man, you're right. When you're a kid you see adults as some kinda authority figure but then you grow up and realize it's all just bs and no one has any idea what they're doing most the time.

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Now... Apply this logic to the politicians you elect and feel either blind or very concerned.

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Actually, politicians aren't even trying to do anything good. They're bribed and black mailed and working for nefarious people who want money and/or to harm others.

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Or they're just in it for the opportunity to rip off money from the regular populace.

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I used to read books like that when I was a teenager. Now I realize that someone who put a book together isn't really that different than me, and actually, I could do it. The book might not sell very much, but I could be the one putting the print on the pages.

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I'm 40 and I look back at the decisions I made when I was 30, and I see how little I knew. If I knew then what I know now I would have made four times as much progress in business & life in the last 10 years.

However, when I was 30, I remember looking back at when I was 20 and thinking the same thing. And it wasn't untrue then either.

This makes me wonder what I will think when I am 50. I feel confident at the moment that I am doing well, but am I going to look back at what I am doing right now, and shake my head at how much time I am wasting?

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If you're not looking back at your former self and thinking of how stupid you were, then you're not making progress.

[–] • 12 pts

The West gave up rituals of passage for faggotry and female worship. Boys never get the satisfaction of ascending to explicit manhood and are stuck in neverland

[–] • 0 pt

I always thought tribal societies had it right was having rituals for boys to become men , and be recognized as such. Same for girls becoming women.

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All I got was

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What?

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Imagine you are a young masai boy. Living in the dessert in Africa. In order to be a man, with all that entails, you have to kill a lion, with your spear. You wanna be a boy forever? Then go get your spear, Jd kill a fuckin lion. Obviously there's a few steps between being a young boyand killing a lion with a spear, but the point is the ritual. Imagine knowing you accomplished that, and everyone knows and respects it.

There is no modern equivalent. There's just a bunch of rites of passage that don't mean the same

[–] • 1 pt

You could have just looked up writes of passage for Celtic lineage. That would go over a lot better on here.

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Im never gonna imagine Im a nigger.

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I'm 30, no kids and if I'm clean shaven and have short hair, people think I'm 20.

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I stopped maturing at about 17 , which is when I started using drugs and alcohol habitually.

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Your body grows, but we are the same in our mind. Those who are viewed as 'adults" are just disillusioned kids who got off the ride, and got sour. Not finding their way back on!

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I had the same thoughts as you. The only differences between a kid and an adult in my experience are

1) more experience that you end up using on a daily basis.
What this means is that you are more likely to do something different or not, because you realize more consequences 2) You are less likely to think you're immortal 3) You have responsibilities. If you don't work or whatever, you don't eat, or you lose your car or house or whatever

But, yeah, as a kid i thought that "becoming an adult" was a thing, but it's not... It's only a thing in tribes where they have some ceremony.

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I've always been mature and responsible in my adult years but having babies absolutely changed something in my brain and I absolutely feel like my life has two parts- before children and after.

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I know exactly what you mean. Your developed brain, your personality, the thinks you like, enjoy, your sexual nature- including your sex drive; everything about you is still the kid that you were at age twenty (or so). now that I'm on the downhill side of the aging curve I understand that. I understand why old guys flirt with younger women, I understand why old people still cry about being neglected by their parents, I understand why old people still go dancing and try to roller skate, why you still are attracted to your favorite action figures and cartoons. It's because you're still you.

Some things change such as opinions and some attitudes but essentially you will always be you. It's hard to explain I know I tried to tell someone and they didn't understand what I was trying to say. But yep, I get it.

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When I was growing up my dad always said to me "grow up" / "be an adult". For the life of me I could never figure out what he meant. I knew what he "meant" and if I defined it it basically boiled down to "be an asshole, be nothing".

Eventually I became "an adult" and was able to come up with my own definition. Being an adult is being physically fully grown (this pretty much is the only actual requirement), being responsible and being able to be independent. I think having kids after this really completes the full 'being an adult'.

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all of you are depressing the fuck out of me. all the shoulda, coulda, woulda bullshit is depressing. Being old means nothing except you have been here quite a while. don't overthink it.

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I remember when I was a little kid I thought the thinking when I became an adult was going to change somehow, like maybe become more organized. But no, my thought process is the same as it was when I was six months old

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