"You can be anything you want when you grow up"
This is fine but it should be followed by
"but these are the sacrifices you need to make:"
For example your kid could be an MMA fighter but he better fucking harden up and start training immediately. He could be a scientist but he better devote an hour or two per day studying a topic in and do it in his own time etc etc.
All white kids should know they can do everything, but they must also respect the time and dedication required to accomplish those things. Another point is you often can't do two things at once, like being in a high demand career and be a great father. Sacrifices need to be understood and respected
It's not true. I couldn't be an athlete in any popular sport, because I'm too skinny. I also don't have any excessive visual-spatial ability to master some low-paying, unpopular sport where size doesn't matter. As far as stuff like science and engineering, some people aren't smart enough for that.
You should lead your children into what they're capable of doing. If they're interested in something but not very capable, then you need to let them know in a gentle manner that they might be able to contribute to it or be around it, but they can't be it. If you're a mediocre musician, you're not going to be Stevie Ray Vaughan, but you might be Tommy Shannon on the bass. You might play drums, that's even easier. You could also be a guitar tech or a roadie.
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