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Fuck guys. I'm so fucked.

I had a decent job at a engineering/architectural firm for 7 years.

Was doing ok until Covid...then I just stopped caring. I used to be an early riser. 2nd or 3rd in the door. Did good work. After and during Covid BS I couldn't even make it out of bed some days. Couldn't be fucking bothered.

They fired me with a heap of severance, and I got a new job almost right away.

I'm not gonna make it through probationary period ..i can barely show up still. I space out 50% of the time.

Probably gonna drop the hammer on me soon. I can probably get another job...but how the fuck do I shake this BS off?

Everything seems so fucking pointless. 1/3 of my wage is gone to taxes right of the bat. Housing prices are fuckt. Everything is so expensive, BS politics, and wasteful spending. ..it just fucking seems pointless.

I need to move out of the city, but with my building, CAD, and design experience I can't get a decent paying job somewhere smaller.

Long and short i need to get a job work at it for a bit until I can switch careers to something where I can work in a smaller city/town.

But...how the fuck do I muster up the willpower to get in there and do it.

Gaurantee my girlfriend is gonna flip if/when I lose this job.

P.S. I turned down another company for a job, how would reccommend I ask for another job offet from them?

Fuck guys. I'm so fucked. I had a decent job at a engineering/architectural firm for 7 years. Was doing ok until Covid...then I just stopped caring. I used to be an early riser. 2nd or 3rd in the door. Did good work. After and during Covid BS I couldn't even make it out of bed some days. Couldn't be fucking bothered. They fired me with a heap of severance, and I got a new job almost right away. I'm not gonna make it through probationary period ..i can barely show up still. I space out 50% of the time. Probably gonna drop the hammer on me soon. I can probably get another job...but how the fuck do I shake this BS off? Everything seems so fucking pointless. 1/3 of my wage is gone to taxes right of the bat. Housing prices are fuckt. Everything is so expensive, BS politics, and wasteful spending. ..it just fucking seems pointless. I need to move out of the city, but with my building, CAD, and design experience I can't get a decent paying job somewhere smaller. Long and short i need to get a job work at it for a bit until I can switch careers to something where I can work in a smaller city/town. But...how the fuck do I muster up the willpower to get in there and do it. Gaurantee my girlfriend is gonna flip if/when I lose this job. P.S. I turned down another company for a job, how would reccommend I ask for another job offet from them?

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[–] • 4 pts

Do you execise? Get a heavy bag, learn to wrap your hands, watch some boxing howto videos. (videos are fine for getting started with footwork etc.). Go slow. Don't break your hands or wrists.

Change your body chemistry through brute force and then ride that wave until you get your head on straight. I'm serious.

I'm not currently where are but I've been there before. I used to travel when I got like that but, as they say, "Wherever you go ... there you are."

[–] • 1 pt

Yeah, I usually cycle 30-40 daily. Mix in some yoga at home. Some kettlebell stuff at home. And top rope climbing.

Fallen off the kettlebell and climbind during the last 2-3 weeks though.

Was looking at doing some sort of martial Arts of sorts, for fitness, fun, and to be better able to defend myaelf, but...with the job bs and motivation problem havent found the time for it.

But, yeah...exercise is pretty important....sure helpa towards being better.

[–] • 0 pt

I'm glad to hear you have exercise as a baseline. It has been so helpful to me at various points.

I'll get flamed for saying it here but if boxing ain't your thing another option which is extremely practical is Krav Maga. Practical in the sense that its brutal for self-defense purposes but because it will get you in amongst "our greatest allies" where you can verify the stereotypes and then not feel so bad about wielding them. As an example, some of the first few techniques in Krav are eye gouging and punching in the throat. Chicken-shit moves in an honorable fight but this is coming from a people that lacks honor and their foreign policy habits manifest in the "white belt" stage of their martial art.